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Originally posted by trysts
When I was younger, my attraction to people was physical. I wanted someone who was cute. I was influenced by the majority. I would project qualities on to the person I was physically attracted to, even if there was no evidence that they actually had any of the qualities that I would assume they had. In this stage of my development, I was at my most shallow in choosing a person to be with. There were so many people who were physically attractive to me. I was a part of the most popular way of viewing attraction.
Later, I became quite attracted to intelligence. I just loved the minds of intelligent people. I was fascinated with the stimulation they gave my own mind. I would listen for hours to people being so articulate and, to me, profound. The playing field was smaller, for sure, but I actually felt quite mature, and began to blossom thinking that I was unique for the first time in my life. I loved words, I loved ideas, and loved the minds of those people I was with.
Now, I find myself attracted to morality. I changed the way I viewed the intellectuals. It seemed that they lacked and ridiculed the "heart". It seems so childish to me now that I kept projecting things onto people, when these things weren't really there or being developed. The mind meant nothing if it didn't care for others. I find truly moral individuals to be the least popular people around, yet the most attractive people on the planet.
So, as succinctly as I can put it, that's my experience of the three phases of attraction! Thank you for reading me
Originally posted by trysts
reply to post by abeverage
Thank you for your response, abeverage
I think each individual decides what is moral. I also think that my idea of morality is one not peculiar to me alone, therefore I find people who do have a thoughtful approach to morality are very much attracting me. I'm not religious, so I don't believe in "souls". I am more moved to an individual who does not defer to a presumed authority on the matter. Individuals who care, without a selfish fantasy of reward, such as those seeking a metaphysical approval of their obedience to gods and such. And I don't think it is genuine morality not to harm someone because of fear of retribution. If practiced, I believe moral thought and conduct builds an intuition--a feeling of what's right and wrong in any given circumstance. But it must be practiced and made a habit in my view. I believe it is a life-long endeavor, especially in understanding empathy and freedom.
Continuous learning is key, in my view. I believe one who can thoughtlessly harm any conscious being, for example, is not someone whom I would have an attraction to at this point in my life. Some things, such as violence to others, whether they be humans or animals, is too serious a thing for me to overlook now
Originally posted by PurpleVortex
Hey OP, nice thread.
I'm 22, and I have a very strong intuitive nature. I can easily pick a mate from a crowd by her energy field. I sort of scan and pick up on peoples auric fields. It's like I tap into "her" subconscious and know if she would be compatible with me or not. That for me is stage 4, the level of the soul. I get to know women backwards sort of...Stage 4 check. Stage 2 and 3 are already included in stage 4. (this is a very strong KNOWING). She also needs to be decent looking obviously
reply to post by trysts
That's pretty interesting, PurpleVortex. Makes me say, "hmmm..."