reply to post by gemineye
I guess it depends on how you live your life, and you you "manage" your memories. I'll try to explain what I mean. I've always lived a very
"busy" life. As a kid, it was honors classes and after-school "advanced" classes (like taking high school chemistry in 5th grade.) orchestra, my
own band for a few years, baseball. In High School, I worked 30 hours a week during the school year. In college, I worked 2 jobs while going to school
full-time. I've always had a large and active social circle, friends, family, dating. I currently work around 60 hours a week and am married with a
10 week old baby boy. Still have a lot of friends and visit with family often. I don't sleep much. I'm a very healthy/natural eater, I exercise
regularly, don't take meds, except on rare occasions some hay-fever required benadryl.
Now, with all that said...I rarely feel stressed, or hectic, and I believe a large part of that has to do with how I "manage my memory" - I keep the
mundane day-to-day things organized. My keys, my wallet - always go in the same place. I don't have to expend any energy remembering where I put my
keys, etc. Day to day work stuff, I keep track of with redundant computer systems. I can't tell you what's going on with "work issue x" without
looking it up - that's by design. I don't want all that stuff jumbling up my brain.
Day-to-day life happenings, interpersonal relationships, etc., I feel like I convert to an overall single "memory" of that person/thing/whatever,
rather than a collection of memories. I don't try to recall who I saw a certain movie with, but I know I have a collection of friends, and my wife,
whom I see movies with. If I ever want to "recall" something specific, like "was Eric with us when we saw that horrible movie Cloverdale?", I can
usually figure it out by working back through to it. The thing is, I usually just don't see the need to dredge up such details, because it's the
overall relationship and collective experiences with people that matters, not so much the mundane building blocks of the bigger picture.
I remember, nor know anything about anything anyone posts on Facebook, twitter, etc. I don't know anything about the television schedule except that
every Sunday I watch a couple hours of recorded TV - I don't know when those shows happened, and I don't remember and repeat quotes from the
Now, more "memorable" events, I remember in vivid detail like they were yesterday. Whether from 30 years ago, 2 years ago, or 2 weeks ago, it's as
I'd it was only yesterday. They're more important, more impactful. My memory banks are more clear for the things which are more important to
remember in detail.
So overall, I guess what I'm getting at is, there is a limit to effective memory, and how efficient yours works for the things you really want it for
is probably exactly like how a computer works, just way more advanced. If you load your PC up with inefficient programs, like AOL instant messenger,
and iTunes, with its companion slew of background programs, your computer is already going to be half drained of ability before you even get to
anything you actually want to do with it. And if you fill your hard drive with movies, eventually you're going to have to compress and stash some of
them to make room for more pictures. Much the same, if your brain is busy with concern about mundane things, or focused on memorizing things which
aren't really necessary to remember, then there isn't going to be enough "power/space" available for what you want.
I believe a lot of what we as a society have going on these days lends itself to poor memory. Too much clutter, too many low-level stressors - even
the ones we don't think are bothering us (like faraway negative news, for example.) I think we need to actively decide what and where to file away
our memories, and how to filter some more of the little things to the "compressed files" storage.