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Originally posted by XeroOne
She'll be okay in 20 years... sort of. The best thing you could do is tell her the truth. Hiding it will make it harder on her.
Originally posted by XeroOne
Pretty good. Writing your thoughts and feelings helps you to rationalise them, learn the underlying reasons why something's happened and why someone was apparently acting like a tw*t.
But you don't even have to live with it. Just brush it off and move on. These days I have no regrets, or a soul for that matter.edit on 5-8-2012 by XeroOne because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by silent thunder
People will tell you to forgive and forget, to let go.
As if that's even possible when a parent has seriously wronged you. The hate becomes part of your very bones.
Best wishes struggling with your pain. You may not be able to forgive or forget, but there is a way to live with it. I hope so, anyway.
Originally posted by 74Templar
Brilliant work my friend. It's a topic many people don't want to broach, yet it happens all the time. The same thing pretty much happened to my eldest daughter with her father (she is adopted), and he turned to crime and drugs rather than be a man to his daughter. I rue the day he ever wants contact again, I honestly hope it never comes.
But consider this. Without that conviction would it have made you a better man and father? That if you grew up with different circumstances would it have made you the parent you are today? Just something to mull over, but I commend your dedication to your girls, kids always see parents as their heroes, even when we don't feel it ourselves. It's up to us to fill that role no matter the cost.
Oh, and S&F of course.
Originally posted by geobro
my dad never bothered with me as a kid lives 15 miles away from me & has visited me once in 45 years .he must be thinking of death now as i have recived 4 letters & 2 presents in the last year all remain unopened after reading this will post them back with dont bother in capitals anybody can be a father but only someone special can be a dad lol
What ever the case maybe,
Dislocate your emotions
And detach from these words.
Don't blame them,
Gain from them.
From That being,
You gained awareness.
Consider this next,
You learn fast,
From your mistakes.
Or words of advice.
We profit most
In emotional intelligence.
But these truth's, already known.
From whatever unconsciousness before.
Somewhere between point A and B,
Waste no time in this recognition.
Forget the psychological
You are alive, now.
In this moment.
it just spilled out.
Originally posted by beezzer
*beezzer wakes son just to hug him*
Originally posted by DaphneApollo
Nicely written story. At least you're getting your feelings down and out.
My dad has never told me he's sorry for what he's done and for 25 years I've not talked to him and don't want to. There's no excuse to hurt and torment your family and not give a damn whether they live or die or if you killed them or their mother. No excuse...
Good for you. It hurts and never goes away, but in your child’s eyes you will regain some sense of peace, I know my son is my life and I could never do that to him, ever.