reply to post by NoRegretsEver
Research, for me, has nothing at all to do with parenting. Research and statistics and social theorizing are all about generalization. Research is all
variable - you can find research results to support almost any belief system. Also, it is very clear that some research studies are fueled by money
and not actual science. That said, my family is unique; we aren't generalized. Thus, any research I find is only vaguely applicable at best.
If you are talking about research into conspiracies and secret agendas, etc, then those have nothing at all to do with my family. All of that stuff is
speculation, so I don't see a reason to bring it up as "fact" or let it influence my life.
I do, however, have discussions with my children about current events, and things that scare them about the world because I am interested in how they
perceive the world. They have very astute and relevant observations; I learn a lot from them.
I've had conversations with them about drugs and smoking and alcohol and tattoos and music and politics and television and child abuse and other
topics that parents should be concerned about. My children are relatively young, though, so at this point it is more of an open dialogue than
anything. And, I think that is the most important part, because when they are older, they will know that they can talk about difficult topics with
I parent by listening and considering how best to reach each child. All of my children are different types of people, so I parent them based on their
My eldest son (7) is an empath and very sensitive, yet extremely aware and knowledgeable about humanity. He understands that the world is not nice
and not going to be nice, but he also understands that he can be nice to the world and other people without being used or abused. He is the kind of
person that would give someone the shirt off his back, but not hesitate to defend others against being hurt. He is a natural leader, although he must
first conquer his emotion to step up to leadership. I work with him to recognize and address fears so that he is not limited by it. He doesn't talk
about "normal" stuff with other kids, even though he goes to public school. He is most interested in being a dendrologist and meteorologist, so this
is his main focus in life. He gets the other kids playing "escape from the tornado" pretty quickly.
My daughter (5) is a tough little girl. She's the kind of kid that wants to teach everyone else how to do things right. She will take other kids under
her wing, so to speak, so they don't get into trouble. She is very helpful and very observant and has an amazing memory, as well as an active
imagination. However, she is also very stubborn and strong-willed. She is relatively fearless. She is a leader, but she also likes to fit in. For her,
I focus on remember to be true to herself and remembering to think about her actions instead of just reacting or copying others.
My younger son (1) is just a jolly little kid, always happy, and always exploring. I think he may also be an empath, yet he is also strong-willed and
fearless. I think he will be the peacemaker of the family.
So, research is irrelevant. My kids are my kids, and that's it.
Interesting topic, NoRegretsEver!
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