reply to post by adjensen
You seem to do this over and over -- you misunderstand the point I am making, and when corrected, you ignore the fact that you were wrong, and
instead point out that you are an authority on things and you're a mother with children, and so you should be taken seriously.
And 'you seem to' keep up the same condescending attitude. Sir, if people (besides myself) are telling you that your abrupt and arrogant manner is
offensive, perhaps you might try rewording your posts.
If people continue to "interpret" you "over and over" as being difficult, well, then, maybe you're difficult. Explaining you're 'not being
difficult' is not working. You still appear difficult.
Your tone is what it is, and you "over and over" speak to me as though I am lesser than you. So, "over and over", I will point it out.
POINT: If you want people to hear past your condescension, it is up to YOU to change your approach, not ME or others who express offense, to "stop
interpreting you incorrectly."
I read through your entire debate with Druid, and I saw that you are capable of being reasonable, just as your subtitle states. Yet, your attitude
in other forums is consistently one of being what can be called "fed up with idiots", who 'crack you up', when they are clearly NOT trying to be
funny. As though you see them as buffoons with no credibility, and have no intention to allow them to earn
any credibility in your eyes.
POINT: This is counterproductive to collective growth as a "group" looking into these matters. It is also counterproductive in "preachers".
In any case, you are not
earning points for your side of the story, and I venture to say it's your smug and snide manner that rubs others the
wrong way. I see NuT was right when he advised me "not to go toe to toe with you" after your recent reappearance here.
POINT: It is not effective to mock and show disdain to anyone who doesn't agree with everything you say; and when misunderstood, to blame the
for their perfectly legitimate (mis)interpretation. Do you see how that works? (Actually I see what you do as more of a
being interpreted correctly, and then you twist things around to make it look like you are the victim of misinterpretation
through no fault of your own, but rather due to the interpreter's "issues" and "faulty thinking" that "have nothing to do with your
POINT (REPETITIVE, so you HEAR IT): A message of faith and spirituality, if intended to be taken in with courteous regard and sincere thought on the
part of the listener, will win more adherents if the speaker is respectful, sincere, and approachable. (As opposed to being a superior smart-ass, over
and over). This is one of the main problems with MOST preachers. They treat people listening to them as if they really are
as stupid as sheep
or as ignorant and innocent as little children, rather than treating them with dignity and respect.
Do I get cranky and confrontation from time to time? Have a bad day or get irritated and bite at people. YES, I DO. But I'm always aware of it.
And when I'm cranky, I don't just automatically shut up so others won't hear me complain. People have every right to protest unfair treatment, and
to ask for clarification, WITHOUT expecting to be humiliated or dismissed for doing so. In your case, your abrupt manner overrides anything you say,
immediately, so that often I move on without
straining to get your meaning. If that's what you're after, though, you're succeeding. Maybe
you don't really want to be heard, you just want to read back to yourself the erudite 'brilliance' that you write.
But what do I know.