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Unlike most women, guys typically view pornography as innocent and as a remedy for loneliness or the lack of a partner. Men often rationalize and justify their interest in erotica. They view it as normal behavior. Furthermore, pornography's effortless, online availability makes it an easy remedy for boredom and insomnia. Unfortunately, porn viewing may not sit well with a wife or girlfriend. Typically, her reaction will be to change or attempt to stop her partner's viewing habits. Pornography surveillance by the woman often accomplishes little. It feeds resentment, mistrust and is seldom beneficial. Many women discover months or years later that the man never stopped. In fact, sometimes, porn viewing has dramatically increased and has become an even deeper secret in the relationship. Addictive behavior, such as looking at pornography, tends to intensify not diminish over time.
Originally posted by WiindWalker
reply to post by Lulzaroonie
Sex is just sex when it comes to porn, and nothing more. It will never replace what you and your spouse share in the bedroom.
Originally posted by Klassified
Still, if a man enters into a relationship knowing his girlfriend or wife disapproves of it, then he should abide by her wishes, or he shouldn't have gotten into the relationship with her to start with. This is an issue that needs to be dealt with early on if the male wants the freedom to look.
edit on 7/24/2012 by Klassified because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by tothetenthpower
Originally posted by Klassified
Still, if a man enters into a relationship knowing his girlfriend or wife disapproves of it, then he should abide by her wishes, or he shouldn't have gotten into the relationship with her to start with. This is an issue that needs to be dealt with early on if the male wants the freedom to look.
edit on 7/24/2012 by Klassified because: (no reason given)
Wants the "freedom"? Since when should men beg their significant others for the "freedom" of doing anything?
Perhaps it is the girl's job in this case to get over her insecurities and realize that she isn't in charge of anybody else.
Perhaps she should respect his wishes when he says he wants to look at porn? Why are his wants/needs less valid/important than hers?
~Tenth