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Originally posted by MountainLaurel
Alls well that ends well ...a Good Night Sleep Glad you decided to participate and actually contribute.
Hope you are all well....I have really been thinking alot about this thread today...
Well true. I'm not an expert nor am I a psychologist but the sweet, innocent, sexy etc is not bizzare but there can be several aspects. Many men refuse to grow up and the best years of their lives are relived by dating a younger female. The growth factor of younger generation (all related to growth hormones) is another aspect which we ignore. With the calories and hormones rich food, they grow up and look like adults even in their teen years. Clothing certainly doesn't help if provocative. 13 year old 100 years ago vs 13 year old in 2012 on average are very different physiologically (if someone can site a good reference/source, it would be appreciated ). Certainly in many cases, alcohol is the culprit too when the mistakes are committed. This has nothing to do with the pedos that are out there where either they themselves have been abused as kids and/or feel safer to approach a younger person rather than an adult who could complicate things. In the case of 'camel jockeys', the availability of women behind 'burkha' is slim so the ever so virile male keeps the jockeys as their past time. In several cultures, it is the quest to 'deflower' a virgin and the bragging rights of being the person's first lover. In other cultures, it has also to do with the physiology where the genitals of a younger partner is firmer then the aged ones. There is a society in Africa where they actually sew the vagina of a woman in addition to castrating the women in the hopes to increase the pleasure for the men during intercourse. I apologise if this is too much details but there are several aspects which are openly available to read on the web if you only search the right terms.
There seems to be a "market" for young beautiful "kids"...and as I said before, an 18 year old is not able to truely "consent"....and I would actually take that age up to 25 yrs......many Men are attracted to young girls, and it is obvious why, sweet, innocent, sexy, etc.
You should have discussed it with your mom if not dad. At the same time, you should instruct your children to do the same should something similar happen to them. Me and my wife discuss about such things often and ensure that our daughter is brought up in a way where our communication lines are not broken no matter what. Often times folks keep quiet since they dont know what to do in a situation as yours. We try to indirectly convey certain messages to my daughter (who is just a toddler at this time...5 years old). Eventually she will be asking the key questions as she grows up and with the outside element beyond our control, the best we can do is to be there for her no matter what but she is well instructed as per what to say and what not to say and what to look and lookout for.
I guess the thing I need to get off my chest......is starting from age 12, how many men, uncles, friends fathers ( God that is awful, 4 different friends Dad's) , co-workers( in a "professional" workplace) Friend's husband's, OMG, groped, cornered, grabed, and basically made it clear they wanted sex with me....and here's the crazy part, I never told anyone, when I was a kid, I knew my Dad would go kick those men's ass's, and it would hurt my friends, so I stayed silent, I knew if I told my friend her world would crash....I just pretended it didn't happen, I played dumb, and "escaped" the situation.....
Its still not too late to prosecute his a$$. I am strictly against 'sleepovers' or 'pajama parties' or 'slumber parties'. I dont trust anyone including immediate relatives with my 5 year old. I told my wife very strictly how its going to be. She is ofcourse more than welcome to play at her friends place or have a toddlers play date provided one of us is there and then its back to home we go. With the amount of weirdness out there, no freakin way
I didn't bring this on, I am the girl next door type, cute, yeah, but I was never overtly sexual...and some man, my friends Dad, cupping my breast at 13 years old, and telling me, "yeah your a B cup" will haunt me forever...I jumped away, it made my friend cry, and I never went back there, I later heard that bastard molested her...
I hear you. It all depends on how open you are with one of the parent if not your father but your mother. Only a woman would understand another woman just the same way only another man would understand a man There is nothing to be ashamed about. Just ensure that your kids are open to talk about anything to you if not your husband. We use several methods to get the information out of our 5 year old as per what goes on in the classroom. Nothing usually happens but if a boy was touching her even innocently or if she responded to some weirdness, we need to know She is never felt to be afraid when communicating with us. Kids at that age are innocent and it is all female teachers in the church based school but we do not wish her to become too casual with the boys or girls for that matter. She will be attending public school next month for her kindgergarten. Everything in moderation is our motto for ourselves and for our kids.
but I was unable to cope with the reality of the situation, so how the hell is some poor kid that get's sucked into this whole "mess', supposed to ask for help, when I couldn't even tell my parents that grown men in our neighborhood were hitting on me? I never did anything with any of these men, but I somehow felt ashamed?
Perhaps you might not have met or know anyone personally but they're out there if you follow up on the news With the ever so changing culture of ours for being 'equal', there are numerous cases just in the recent past 5 years that you can search for where the woman was much older and the men (boys) were below the legal limit
Originally posted by getreadyalready
reply to post by MountainLaurel
The flipside of that, is that I rarely encounter a woman that is attracted to a teen boy. Most women are either repulsed by the idea, or they find it comical. Women are hardwired to be attracted to the viable males that offer more than just fertility, and those males are often late 20's or older, and sometimes even much older.
Anyways I guess the point I want to make is that even when I was "exploted" by Men that I should have been able to trust, I hid it from my Dad, cause he would have killed them......and I had a happy childhood overall....I was loved......but I was unable to cope with the reality of the situation, so how the hell is some poor kid that get's sucked into this whole "mess', supposed to ask for help, when I couldn't even tell my parents that grown men in our neighborhood were hitting on me? I never did anything with any of these men, but I somehow felt ashamed?
Originally posted by Spiramirabilis
I was just about to suggest they unionize :-)
Originally posted by tovenar
most of the people in favor of legalizing prostitution are affluent middle and upper-class, mostly males. They are generally well-educated, with a variety of life choices to choose from.
The vast majority of the people who actually have their orifices penetrated for someone's profit are the underclass. They are often not legal citizens where they work, and sometimes don't even speak the language of their "host" country. They are often young, uneducated, penniless and starving; with no real alternatives.
Of course legalization has its libertarian advocates, like John Stossel: a Princeton-educated, emmy award-winning journalist from a prominent Jewish family of Chicago. No one is ever going to force him to do anything intimate against his will---he has all the money and power of a 1%-er.
Compare that with a typical prostitute: teenager, hispanic female, (illegal) immigrant, living on the street with no relatives, education, or job skills or savings account, and a limited ability to speak English. Beaten regularly to extract any "tip" given her by her Johns, and beaten again if she becomes to ill to pull a train on a given work-night.edit on 24-7-2012 by tovenar because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by Biliverdin
Originally posted by Dhimmie
How do you know it isn't about sex and power and control are used to achieve this. Without sex, it isn't rape so of course it is about sex to some degree.
I can understand your confusion, but sex is the means of expressing the power and control, or more simply, the weapon of choice in the perpetrators expression of their aggression. More often than not, the rapist does not ejaculate, no sexual gratification, or sexual release is even achieved, the gratification (and arousal) comes from the empowerment that comes from terrorising or having a person under your control, or as a means of inflicting violence against.
Originally posted by galadofwarthethird
reply to post by tothetenthpower
Where are the records that indicate this as being fact? As far as I understand it, that sort of recorded history would have only began with civilization. We've been "civilized" for thousands of years, I hardly call that modern.
Before that things were more natural and primal, but you know that propaganda existed even then. And after thousands of years enforcing certain things and ways those things and ways become instinct, and other things that were instinct become either repressed or changed completely.
Originally posted by Dhimmie
its 50% and not as you think more often than not
www.adn.com...
Originally posted by galadofwarthethird
So no its nowhere near as simple as that, or is it.
Originally posted by Biliverdin
Originally posted by galadofwarthethird
So no its nowhere near as simple as that, or is it.
Never, not ever. Which is why I always return to that saying almost as old as that oldest of professions. Know thyself.
As long as you're honest about who you are, no need to justify yourself to anyone.
Originally posted by galadofwarthethird
reply to post by SibylofErythrae
And no doubt you used to think that I argued with you as a matter of habit. You off-course were wrong, and if you think agreeing with me will make me not argue with you, then that is just as equally unfounded.
Or use other's up and degrade them - the details do end up very interesting though. The very people who force the situation and use people up are usually the people who are most wanting / needing a sexual outlet that is interesting. But they then categorize the people who might have those skills as something that they have no respect for. Therein feeding their own problem, and making it entirely less likely for them to attract a long term mate that actually would have or want to have those proclivities or skills.