My daughter has something wrong with her yet not even the doctors can find what it is at this stage.

I cannot speak as to what is causing this, but I can maybe explain some of the symptoms of the sore throat, burning eyes, and sleep issues. If something is causing her airway to swell, she might be experiencing some symptoms similar to apnea. Lack of REM sleep, or getting very dense REM sleep can make someones eyes burn the next morning. Sore throats are often a symptom of excessive snoring, but in this instance it can be from either the actual root issue, it causing apnea, or some of both. Of course this is not “true” apnea, its sounds to be secondary to something that is causing swelling of some type, and restricting her airway.

Originally posted by DarknStormy
From what my ex said, the doctor said if she doesn't improve over the next day or two they will have to give here an injection in her back and he said he wouldn't even do it to his own daughter. She said a spinal tap what ever that means.

A spinal tap is not exactly an injection, its a needle inserted into the spinal cord to extract spinal fluid, so they can test it for viruses and bacteria. There are different types and causes of meningitis, and this tells them what they are dealing with. Its EXTREAMLY painful, and must be done while the patient is awake and motionless. I believe that they have the patient lay on your side in the fetal position, and they will often have multiple people help to hold them from moving, as you don't want to damage the spinal cord in the process.

That said, some forms of meningitis can be fatal or can cause permanent neurological damage, some are very contagious, and some aren't. You absolutely want to know if that is what she has as soon as possible and have it dealt with. The treatment varies with the cause and type. If the Doctor suspects meningitis, its VERY serious, and you need to have the test done despite the pain. You do not want to be getting secondary advice from us folks on the internet in an instance like this.