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Originally posted by ottobot
reply to post by WWu777
Well, to answer the title of your thread, I will say this: many people who claim to have found peace have done so through extensive meditation and introspection. So, technically, peace can only be found while alone.
That said, I'm right there with you - I don't like being around people very much at all. They talk too much, and interrupt my thoughts. I think too much and don't talk enough (well, according to other people, anyway).
I would, gladly, be a hermit. I only have one friend, and I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. I don't care about "the night life" or "fitting in" and I don't think twice about going somewhere on my own. The fact of the matter is, I know what I want to do and I've got little time to deal with other people's emotional responses to every single thing.
Now, some would say I'm cold and heartless. Maybe they're right. Or, maybe, they just can't understand what it's like to be an empath. I think you, WWu777, are empathic. This is not to say that you feel everything other people feel, but you understand everything other people feel. And, you always have. This is why it is emotionally and mentally and even physically taxing on you to be around other people.
The good news is that you can learn how to control it. You can shut off that part of your brain that "hears" other people all the time. Just learn to be you, instead of being present with them.
Someone else already posted that the pressure you are feeling is false. This is true. It is pressure you are creating because you are uncomfortable - you see their insecurity, and you project it toward yourself instead of at them. They are insecure inside, and so will judge others who happen to be nearby. There's nothing you can do about this other than to not care.
I know it's hard not to care. But, you've got to learn to see that other people's superficial attitudes and behaviors are just that - false. You can see through their masks. You do not wear the same mask. So, don't pretend to! Be who you are and don't worry about anyone else!
If you like to be alone, be alone. If you feel like being social, be social. Just do what feels right to you, nobody else knows you like you do.
They drain you, criticize you, judge you, make you feel pressure to act a certain way, give you a feeling of vulnerability,
Originally posted by GabriellaStahr
reply to post by WWu777
Not sure if your going to see or read my comment. But after reading this i would love to be able to get in touch with you somehow to speak further about this and possibly to w.o.r.k alongside you on something.
On a separate note i absolutely loved reading this it's so true and i feel this way a lot of the time. It's so sad in a way to see what non-unique people out there have evolved to be these days.
Originally posted by fixer1967
Originally posted by trollz
It's been a fantasy of mine for a long time to live somewhere in the wilderness away from civilizationon
I feel the same way. I lay awake at night thinking about it some times. I feel I was born a thousand years too late or a thousand years too soon.
Originally posted by WWu777
I have a question. Even though I consciously like people and like to socialize, I find myself more and more preferring to spend time alone. I don't know why. It's like my conscious wishes and natural inclination are at odds with each other