Originally posted by JohnnyFever
YES, that makes me happy, but then add the real world into the scene ... where both mom and dad work for a living, have to send the kids off to one place or the other during summer, trying to find ways to pay for that, when all we want to do is have one of us stay home with them.
If I consume myself in the "happiness" of it all it's easy to loose site of what's important to the family, was of financial survival. I can't be happy all the time, because that's not what life is about and if you live that way it's so far from what reality is that I wouldn't know what to think.
We can all sit around in a circle and sing kumbya and sure that would be nice to do every once in a while, kind of like a mental retreat. But reality is still out there waiting for you, and sometimes it really sucks...
That's what you really have to live with and deal with in in a normal frame of mind, not from high up on a hill top..
But, all that said. I wish life were more of what you see. It's not all roses, you got to deal with the thorns too, and that's not happy...
Originally posted by svetlana84
reply to post by kromaion
Love for all things and people: i guess the most radical quote on this subject i heard in a documentrary about buddhism. A tibetan monk was interviewed.
His life in very short version: he lived in tibet, the chinese came, destroyed his village, killed a lot of his people, he managed to flee with 300people, horrible scenes, most of them did not get out alive. He was captured, tortured, spent years in labour camps... Short the worst you can imagine.
Asked about how he mentally coped, he replied: you know, there have been hard moments when i had doubts. Doubts that i could not forgive these people.
For me, this quote was one of the most thought provocating quotes i ever heard.
For sure i am far away from his level, but i also made the experience, that when you can accept and even love anyone, it changes the game.
Especially people who want to bring you down, just because they like to see people suffer, they are the first to be disorientaded when receiving love. Since they don t get what exlected, and probably never experienced love before (which makes them the way they are).
Originally posted by Manula
I hear ya brotha, we are all works in progress!!
reply to post by wrdwzrd
Thanks for your words.
Any addiction has the danger of pain when the drug is over. For the addicted the end of the drug is hell.
Isn't it like this in all sources of good vibes that become an addiction, that become something we cant imagine living without?
What the addicted fears the most is the end of his drug, so the endings are hell...
Also, emotional control is very important because it enables you to feel what you want.
You can choose to let go and live a drama, but its a choice, you can detach from the drama when you want.
You can choose to sympathize with someone, to feel what other is feeling, to be truly compassionate because you are not afraid to feel anymore, you can control your feelings, that's when you start really feeling.
You choose your feelings, that's what being in control is all about, you can choose to feel good or bad, but you are in control of your emotions, of your energy, isn't this a great achievement too?
I think it really is and i have this wish, to be in control of my feelings, i am getting better as time passes but its not easy. Life is always testing me.
Originally posted by kromaion
What happens when your "love for all things and people" is not reciprocal? When you try to be nice to people and feel good about them and they just keep pushing you down? There's a limit to "loving everything" and people say you can't expect to have anything back and that love is within yourself and you can never expect it from anybody else. Well, I quite disagree with that, to me love should be natural, therefore naturally reciprocal, and this is really not what happens nowadays due to the egocentric society we live in. Also, don't mix love with happiness, loving doesn't mean you're happy and being happy doesn't mean you love anything or anyone.