We all want something to be happy.
Here is a list of things people depend on to love life:
- A love partner;
- Material Possessions;
- a good job and career
- to be beautiful;
- Good intellect;
- Good communicating and social skills;
The list is infinite.
So, we want these things and we work for them.
When we get what we want we feel good, we conquered it or it was given without effort, it doesn't matter, it feels good, life is good.
What happens when the sources of happiness go away?
We either don't care or we get stuck in depression.
Its when we don't get what we want that sometimes we fall into darkness.
Our woman (or man) left us. We are poor now. We have an incurable disease. We cant speak in public. We cant fit in social groups. We lost or we never
had this and that.
The point is we lack something to be happy.
So, we are not dependent of ourselves to be happy, our happiness is in the hands of luck, fate, or other people.
Some people say that this wanting is the source of all the suffering, so if we eliminate the wanting, we are free.
I cant agree with this, wanting is the source of all life, but i don't want to elaborate too much on this.
So here is my solution.
We are on earth to learn and evolve from all life experiences but we also want to enjoy all the things that this planet and this society has to
So we don't have to deny or refuse all the good things that we like.
Enjoy all life has to offfer but... you must be able to feel good no matter what happens in your life.
You enjoy all the good things of life but you are not dependent of anything.
A drug addict is dependent on drugs to feel good isnt it? He is considered a sick person.
But in reality he is no different than almost everybody that put conditions to life. I can only be happy if... and people are dependent, they are
addicted to a lot of things because when all those things go away (money, job, health, friends, lover etc etc) they react like a drug addict, they are
left in pain, agonizing pain.
The Buddhists call this attachment.
The problem is not in wanting, the problem is in attachment.
So the solution is not to refuse what life has to offer, the solution is to not let yourself be emotionally dependent on things or events you cant
Just don't be an addict!
Be prepared to be happy no matter what life has to offer.
Love life no matter what happens and enjoy what is present.
You can want something, have a goal, work to conquer something but you must love life even if all goes wrong despite all your effort.
Life is always good no matter what happens.
Practice unconditional love for life.
Neptune and Pisces in astrology
And another important lesson i learned is that we can control what we feel, so the problem is not what happens, the problem is in our emotions in
reaction to what happens. And you know what? I learned that we can choose how we feel about everything. We can choose to feel good no matter what
There are emotions that arise in a burst but we can quickly claim control of what we feel if we WANT to. But first we must be aware that we have that
power, but this is another thread.
Take care and thanks for listening my preaching