I've been reading and pondering this subject for four years and I still don't know what I think.
In my personal experience (male), orgasms inevitably lead to depression, irritability, manic mood swings, compulsive behavior, and other related
problems. But I think this is a personal problem and does not necessarily mean that regular orgasms are harmful to everyone. Certainly some females
seem to thrive off them
But I know I feel better when I avoid them for a while (weeks, months).
I have a theory that the "loss of energy" that some experience after orgasm - which leads the more spiritually-minded to conclude they are losing
precious life-force / chi / etc - may actually be caused primarily by the overconsumption of omega-6 and trans fats and the underconsumption of
omega-3 fats. How? Orgasm releases dopamine in the brain at a coc aine-like intensity. But (in my understanding) one does not actually feel the
pleasure from this release until the dopamine hits the brain's dopamine receptors. Crucially, these receptors are formed from fat. The brain needs to
use omega-3 fatty acids to build these receptors, but if these are not available, it will use another form instead. Unfortunately, trans fatty acids
are the wrong shape (i.e. the physical alignment of the molecules) and this causes the receptor to be malformed and unable to receive dopamine.
Instead, the dopamine floats around in the brain and/or blood This has the effect of a) making the orgasm less powerful and satisfying and b)
misleading your brain into thinking it is producing too much dopamine, causing it to downregulate dopamine production and leaving you without enough
to provide pleasure for normal daily activities like eating, socialization and exercise. The result is depression and a sense of depletion, loss of
energy, etc. This, I believe, is the main reason for these beliefs that orgasms are bad and to be avoided.
There are some issues with this theory, however: the beliefs about the badness of orgasm go back further in history than the production of trans fats,
which is what leads me to add omega-6 and other polyunsaturated fats to the theory. In addition, I do honestly believe that there's a "spiritual"
component as well; at the very least, one's state of mind and emotions during a sex act are a big factor in the depth of enjoyment and the
aftereffects on mood. I grew up believing all sexual activity outside of marriage, including masturbation, was wrong and damning, so I had much guilt
associated with orgasm and never was able to truly enjoy it. I have found that if I consciously focus on feelings of pleasure and affection during a
sex act, it improves the experience greatly.
But, there is still a sense of depletion and depression afterwards. I am absolutely certain from my dietary history that my dopamine receptors are not
in an ideal condition, and I think this can be improved or even completely healed by several years of avoiding trans and excess omega-6 fat and
consuming plenty of omega-3 (fish, hemp, flax, chia, products from pastured, grass-fed animals, etc). The brain is always rebuilding itself, but it
takes a while for such massive structural changes to be completed.
I would strongly recommend that anyone who wishes to have a better sex life, male or female, avoid all trans fat intake (anything with hydrogenated or
partially hydrogenated oils in the ingredients) and increase omega-3 intake, particularly the DHA and EPA found in fish oil*, which is more effective
than the ALA found in seed oils.
If you want to hear another and more hope-inducing perspective on this issue, google "zaneblue orgasm diet" and read about a woman who discovered that
megadosing fish oil and a few other practices took her from zero to tremendous vaginal orgasm abilities, leading her to write a book on the subject
and help many women achieve similar success. Much of the advice applies to men and has been known to help men achieve prostate orgasm ability as well.
Its very interesting and relevant reading, if you dig deep enough into forum posts on this diet, I think you will find examples of people who
initially had no mental correlation between sex and spirituality, begin to have sexual experiences so powerful and transcendent that they may now have
a new perspective on the spiritual. Gate to Eden, indeed?
*if you are vegetarian (I am vegetarian except for fish oil but I am very concerned that the increasing demand for fish oil is beginning to deplete
wild fish stocks, so would like to avoid it if I could) there have been, just within the last few years, significant advances in the algae oil
industry. Algae is what the fish eat to give them omega-3s, so you can skip the fish step and just get the algae oil straight. Currently algae oil
products are prohibitively expensive in the amount you need for therapeutic doses, and they don't contain enough EPA, but within the next year or so
several new products should be hitting the market that should drive prices down, and new technology has just been developed that allows a better
balance of DHA and EPA.
Sorry for the wall of text
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