Hello all. I hope all are having a nice Tuesday night. I need to get some things off my chest (mind) and hope posting it on here will help. I have my
doubts , but it's worth a shot. This is going to be very sad, very disturbing and as with me it made me sick to my stomach. It has since the 25th day
On that day, the 25th of June I came home at around 2:30 in the afternoon. I live in a rural development in N.C. I live an a culddesac (circle) at end
of our development. Mind you the house's arent close. Most drive ways are pretty long, When you pull into the culdesac you only see mailbox's and
driveways. when I topped the hill it looked like evry law enforcment officer for miles were in my culdesac, I could'nt even see my drive way.
I was more than anxious to know what the hell was going on. I quickly found out they were at my neighbors house. Here's where it gets sad and the part
I need help with. My neighbor's 13 year old son, went into the woods behind their house and hanged himself. His father found him. He was 13 years old,
why did this young man take his own life? He was so High in the tree his father could'nt get him down, had to leave him and run and call 911. He died
the morning of the 26th.
My wife & I were and in many ways still in shock about it. You never know what to say to the parents, the normal " you have our deepest sympathy ".
But I can't seem to stop thinking about it. I would see this young man in the mornings most days waiting on the school bus, even gave him a ride on
some days he missed the bus. I had just got thru with taking care of their dogs for the previous week when they went on vacation.
Had just seen and spoke with him that Sat when they came home, he thanked me for taking such good care of the dogs. Less than 48 hours later he took
his own life. I still can't fathom it all. I don't think I ever will and I'm just the neighbor. I can't begin to imagine what it;s like for his
parents, especially his dad. I am not great friends with these folks just a good neighbor as are they.
I ve dealt with death of family members passing (mom & dad). Three friends drowning in the same summer when I was young. A friend of my kids that I
had known since he was about 4 ( actually saw him in the roadway )with a tennis ball size hole in the side of his head from being hit by a car in a
motorcycle accident. Two blocks from my home. None of that is this..This is keeping me up at night. Wondering, why?
I could never ask his parents, how could any one ask them that? I know it;s a sad a situation I have ever dealt with. I have found myself crying out
loud at work over a boy I really did'nt know. But I do now his life had'nt yet begun & it's over. I keep seeing my own kids when they were that age,
and still wondering , how, why? I remeber when I was that age, I know this much for sure, my kids are grown 27, 25 I asked then if they had ever at
anytime growing up think about stuff like that, they both said no. I still wonder why? what was so bad, so terrible that at 13 you feel as though you
can't go on any longer?
I hope some one more educated than myself may be able to offer me some insight as to how to deal with this sense less death of such a nice young man.
Being a parent of two and step parent to three, all I can say to any one is if you have a kid about that age, talk to em, hold them, keep them tight
to your vest, know who & what their into. Be a parent, there's plenty of time after their grown to be their friend. And for any one who may have lost
a loved one by suicide. My sympathy goes out to you, because it seems to me it's a hurt that time can't heal.
His parents asked that instead of flowers please contribute to the natioanl suicide prevention organization. I did, and will again. Every 25th of
June for the rest of my life. I hope to live to be a thousand years old. I only hope you are at peace young man . I just wish I had known you better
Let your kids know you love them, even if they hate you for it. If I put this in the wromg place mods move it. I just thought this was the best forum.
Lots of eyes..
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