reply to post by camaro68ss
I am pretty sure that both men and women need and want both and not one or the other, and especially not one over the other. As soon as you place one
or the other over each-other or weigh them on a scale and categorize them and especially assign them to either male or female. You set them at odds
with each other in ways, because I do not think you can have one without the other and one leads into the other and vice versa.
I may not know that much when it comes to this, but I do believe that Lover and Respect go hand in hand.
But hey what do I know I try my darnedest to avoid sh*t like this, but it just keeps coming back stronger then ever each and every time, its like the
freaking terminator just when you think you killed it and escaped it and finally got away. It rises up from the ashes like a dam machine, and
comes back at you twice as strong in this game called life and love. Of which marriage in its many forms seems to be a knot you can never quite
untie or separate from. After all horse and carriage, even if that horse and carriage is not the one most people see, or know about, or are used to.
So I suppose there has to be a way if we can not avoid this and the whole thing, and believe me I tried. I have not yet succeeded. But maybe were
all going in the wrong direction, and if so then at least we need to figure out a way to live with each-other without always snapping at each other
like cornered animals every time things get a bit to close to each other and we see each other in a new and surprising light, or every time we hit
a dam bump in the road. It's dam silly and pointless if you think about it, like a caged animal who can only express itself by biting and clawing
at each-other now and then to express its love.
But then again that may be to much to ask for, or it may be not enough to ask for. Who the hell knows? There has got to be ways around this duality
stuff and the love and respect paradigm, and ways to get rid of it completely, I can actually think of a few. But then again would I or anybody
really want to try them, and in the end I do not think it would be smart at all or a good thing if I/we succeed in eliminating the whole paradigm.
So ya anyways, moral of the story...WTF are you talking about op? Obviously your a crazy person!
I am pretty sure there is no such thing as a constantly happy marriage, only a long line of good and bad events that people will go through and they
will either overcome it and move on, or they will not and move apart its part of life and there is not point whatsoever to drag things around, other
then that it may be our own personal trials.
And happiness comes and goes in doses just like everything else, and every other emotion in life. But when it is in the minority and it is really
small dosses, and it's nothing but a constant uphill battle, then it may be time to call it quits and find another battle and war one which you can
win at. But the image that is sold of a constant euphoric googly eyed, love, always on the upbeat relationship and marriage. Well that is just
something you see in movies and read about in books.
And there is a reason why its there only in the movies and soapy books, and you only hear about it in those mediums, its because it is a myth. Even
if it is based on a reality, and reality is never quite as pretty as the myth and embellishment of that said reality, its basically like frosting on