posted on Jul, 6 2012 @ 04:18 PM
I used to deal with people like this thread describes on a daily basis. The worst offender in my life, however, is my stepfather. He's a good person,
a good grandfather to my kids, but the guy doesn't know when to quit. He has a lather, rinse, repeat cycle of telling stories. He cycles the same few
stories every time I see him, with priority on anything remotely negative that has recently happened to him.
With him, I just smile and nod; usually my kids sidetrack him and he stops the barrage. He makes people feel helpless in conversation, looking for
escape routes like mad. People like him, I have no advice for dealing with other than "smile and nod".
The common theme I see among posts in this thread, are people at work. I do have good advice for dealing with them.
Find out what it is that the person truly likes. Not just the boring things they talk about; I mean underlying lifelong ambitions, anything that
actually has potential as a point of future conversation. Whatever the subject of interest is, research it a bit. Even a single night of learning
about the subject is enough to have a decent conversation.
When you see the person, and they fall into the habit of talking about the same boring things, strike up a conversation about what it is that you
researched. In time you may find that you actually enjoy talking to the person; many times it's subject matter that defeats our attention spans.
I'm an introvert, so I avoid dealing with people as much as possible. When I deal with new people, I try to learn as much as I can about the things
they like. This way when conversation does arise I'm prepared. Too many times I've walked away from a conversation feeling like the boring one. The
bonus of my work at bettering myself, is that it has made my interactions with people a lot less boring.
This technique does work with people like my stepfather, but only to a point. Some people just drone on and on and repeat themselves many times, or
take control of the flow of conversation. Smiling and nodding are a good backup plan for those people, and maybe a quiet room to decompress afterwards
(or perhaps just to scream obscenities for a while).