Looking back at my childhood there are many things I can remember. Some good, some bad, some I wish I could forget, and some that still make me smile
to myself even today. I recall saying my first curse word and how far my dad’s jaw dropped when I announced he was indeed a “fatherless child”
(unwed officially). You all know the word. I can laugh about it now. Thanks to an older brother...these situations happened to me frequently. My
father did have a legitimate father and he was not well pleased that his daughter had picked up such a word.
A lot of these moments I didn’t learn to appreciate fully until I was grown in age as well as grown in mind. Now, with children of my own, and
seeing some of the things that make headlines today...I find I reflect back more and more to the wisdom my parents passed on to me whether knowingly
or unknowingly. I think a lot of the newer generations have neglected to keep these lessons in their “Teaching Plans” and I am not sure why.
Parenting never came with a manual. Dr. Spock was about as close as you could get and really... who had time to read that? And what made him qualified
to know what every child needed? We moved on to “What to Expect When You’re Expecting” and that was nice but premature. Then came “What To
Expect The First Year”...and you REALLY didn’t have time the first year to read that. When you finally got around to having the time, they were on
the bus headed for kindergarten.
Parents... most of them at any rate, tend to know what works for their children, what tactics to use, what battles to wage and what small fights to
forfeit. This whole post isn’t about corporal punishment. It is about life lessons, where you learned them, from who, what they taught you, and if
you passed it on to your children.
What were some of your parent’s/grandparent’s favorite sayings? The first time they fell from your mouth were you scared you were turning into
Like you had hit that parenting wall wide open!!
It seems the “In” thing these days is less parenting. I may be getting old, or what have you...but it does seem that a lot (not all) kids are not
being taught good manners, respect, personal responsibility, etc. I can recall both of my parents at several key points in my life explaining to me
why these things matter.
Dad always liked to say “I bought you into this world, I can take you out”. Usually said when he was frothing at the mouth. I was never scared of
him, but it did let me know how very pissed he was at the moment. “My house, My rules” is another one he loved...that I have used on more than one
occasion myself. When it is your house you can have 531 kittens and 2 boll weevils.
But Dad also taught me to take pride in my work. To do any job whether it is at McD’s or running a multimillion dollar corporation with pride and to
the best of my ability. He taught me I am not too good for any job and neither is anybody else. Good honest work lets a person sleep at night and
while you may never be rich...money is not all that matters in this life. He taught me to look out for myself, to never expect a hand out, but to
accept a hand up if all else fails. That family matters most. They will be with you in the end. Help others when and where you can.
Mom said mom things like “Don’t do your face that way or it will stick” and “It’s not the outside that counts...it’s what’s on the
But she also taught me what unconditional love is. She taught me to respect my elders and to thirst for the knowledge that they could and did hand
down. She showed me in every way what kind of mother I wanted to be. Be kind to strangers she would say. What goes around comes around. You never know
when it will be you.
I could go on and on, but I want to hear from some of you guys on this....
What are some of the smartest/funniest things your parents said that stuck with you through the years? What were some of best pieces of advice you
received that you didn’t even fully understand at the time you heard it? Do/Did you use these with your children? Will you?
How many folks here feel like parents are parenting a little less these days?
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