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As a man who has been through this, I must totally disagree. Defend yourself through proactive measures. Retain a lawyer now. Determine paternity now. If it is yours, prepare to sue for custody by stabilizing your living situation and income now. Don't wait.
Originally posted by windword
Could your breakup be because of hormonal mood swings? Maybe you'll get back together. I can't stress enough how important it is for the mother to have a supportive father around for a new baby.
Don't jump the gun and start imagining all the bad things that can happen to separate you and your child. Convince her you want to be around as a dad. Even if she's threatening now, when the baby comes she will need you, and be glad that you hung around. It may just strengthen your relationship more than you could imagine.
If you take this attitude, you will end up completely screwed. Move to protect yourself legally. Do it now.
Originally posted by PutAQuarterIn
You need to talk nicely and civil like. It doesn't have anything to do with the 2 of you and how you feel about it...it's about that kid knowing both parent love and care for him/her. To argue and withhold a child from one parent is flat out abuse (at least when the parent is capable and willing) beg if you must, but the kiddo NEEDS both of you. I don't understand why some people hate their ex so much they take it out on the kids to get to said ex. Happens all the time. Remember no name calling, accusing ect. It's really not about you at all...It's about the kidedit on 1-7-2012 by PutAQuarterIn because: spelling