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Originally posted by FissionSurplus
As a woman, I'll try to help you, without making light of your situation.
But first, I need to know, how was your relationship? Was it fractious, with frequent fights, or was it all quiet and good, and then suddenly she up and leaves you?
How "connected" were you? Many men don't really connect with their partners on an emotional level, and the woman is left angry and feeling unloved and unfulfilled from a psychological standpoint. The men usually say they had no idea why the breakup occurred.
Men (in my experience, and I cannot speak for all men since I haven't met them all) tend to "compartmentalize" their life, and their girlfriend / wife is in one compartment, work in another, friends in another, ect. For women, it is all in one big pool.
Clue me in on some more details, and perhaps I can shed some light on how to make the best of this. I need to know what kind of person she is, and what kind of person you are, in terms of the relationship.
You really should trim those eyebrows.
Originally posted by Captain55
We can help and have an ear.
Originally posted by cybro
Forget it, you are screwed, she will use the kid as a weapon to milk all the money out of you she can get. Save yourself and try to prove it isn't yours.
Good advice, but it doesn't go far enough. Sue for full custody. If you win she loses much of her power, which gives you a much better chance for a balanced relationship. Don't believe her or trust her.
Originally posted by seeker1963
reply to post by TechUnique
Not a female my friend, but I can tell you this, get an attorney for the child support fiasco, which will soon be coming, and treat that child as you would if you and her were still together! Always keep this in mind, your child has nothing to do with the issues that you have with his/her mother.