posted on Jan, 18 2014 @ 11:48 AM
reply to post by Serdgiam
You make a point I wish all in the world realize - perspective is key. I am getting ready to jump into research on perspective and one of my questions
is - if all had the same habit to think in terms of how others perceive things, how much would this change our own sense of well being and ultimately
change the world.
We know terrorism can be fought best if we understand why they do it. I can choose to lump them into a category of psychotic, antisocial bad seeds or
I can choose to put myself in their place to figure out why and adjust my approach.
I know that the Bank of America lady who is rude probably has dealt with people yelling at her all day or treating her like a faceless robot. I can
choose to take it personally or I can choose to attempt to understand and be a little patient and personable, which may shift her mood.
I may choose to realize a person on ATS who seems argumentative is exploring - is human - and my perception of them is based on typed words I myself
add context and tone of voice to. Therefore it is the least reliable way to gage what kind of person they are - so I choose to be patient and revisit
them down the road to learn more about how they think. Or I can choose to lump them into my own category as someone whom I won't engage with or will
always disagree with.
I may choose to get out of the car in a fury after being hit by a driver who wasn't paying attention. Or I can choose to trust they didn't do it on
purpose and have a reason for their lapse in judgement at that moment. I can even chose to see there is probably a reason someone does hit another on
purpose or steals - they have their own unresolved issues. It doesn't make it right but by seeing things through their eyes I can at least see them
Perspective building is so important IMO yet something I'm not sure we can ever see happen globally (unless it is taught to every child on an ongoing
basis from here on out). Attributions and errors surrounding that, emotions, and so many other things come into play that it may not bring absolute
peace but I wonder how much it would change things.