kat, you're not alone my fellow ATSer!
It seems if you ask anyone a question these days that is outside "the norm," or a comfort zone of theirs that is noticeably getting smaller these
days, people shy away from answering. The main reason, or one of them, is people want to just watch TV and melt into the program. To ask them a
"heavy" question, means that they must disconnect from said program and bring their thought process, and their attention (surely nowhere near 100%
in both cases) to you and your question.
To hurry the process up, the most lazy answer will be given and it probably will contain nothing more than, "Hmm, I don't know." Pay attention to
that "hmm," as most people just include that to make you think they're arranging a thought that is somewhere in the direction that they think you
want the answer to go --thus giving the least amount of effort to give the fewest of their time as possible. If it's a commercial in their TV program
you might get a commercials length of an answer --lucky you.
Plus, many people will try to get a sense of where your thoughts are before they give an answer for fear of not going above whatever time limit they
have set in their mind as you were asking the question.
Thanks to TV, Facebook and cell phones people are VERY lazy now when it comes to discussing anything other than their own subject bubble, which will
usually only contain 1-3 "safe" subjects.
If you're a person who likes dialogue, conversation and discussions, well, you're gonna have a mighty hard time finding someone who wants to talk
and converse in the length you wish to and deserve.
Yep, thanks to TV, the internet and cell phones, talking face to face is becoming a thing of the past. Cell phones aren't bringing people together,
they're drawing lines between couples and relationships.
The Internet and text messaging hides way too much in conversation as well as cell phones do. Too many "wrong ideas," "misunderstandings,"
"blowing things out of proportion," and so on happen in emails, text messages, etc.
In conversation, the most important thing is to hear what isn't being said, and with texting and the like, it's almost impossible to grasp since
facial expressions, voice tone and structure and body movements are eliminated.
There is no substitute for real conversation. In these days though, the only thing in a conversation that is being substituted sadly is the
other.person and they're being replaced by a "wtf?," "lol," or a "
Sadly, after many conversations today people are left only with a "