Most of you are simply expressing the mores of your current culture which allows sex with just about anybody anytime. It didn't used to be that way,
and in some cultures it still is not. In some cultures virginity is so prized that it must be proved by showing your wedding night linens to everyone.
If you are not a virgin, women, you are damaged goods, in some cases stoned to death if the truth is found out. Of course, with men, it's hard to tell
and they are usually socially sanctioned in one way or another. In fact, in some cases men also don't have a choice. There's a story in "All Quiet on
the Western Front" by Erich Marie Remarque, about a young man who just turned 13 and was taken to a whore house by his father to "make a man out of
him" before he joined WW I as a soldier.
Members of the Woodstock generation grew up in a time of social change where promiscuity was not only encouraged, but almost socially required. It was
the "free love" generation where the mantra was, "If you are not with the one you love, love the one you're with." It was a reaction to the tighter
mores of the fifties and prior where "good girls" simply didn't, and if they did they were social outcasts. What changed all this? The Pill. It
allowed "free love" to happen without consequences.
Today we have developed a problem, STDs. This is not the first time it has been an issue. In 1900 the syphillis epidemic was much greater than AIDS
was a few years ago. Penicillin stopped that, but today there are strains of STDs that are resistant to antibiotics. In short, it's a lot scarier out
there in the world than it used to be in the sixties. Or at least we are more aware of it now.
If you fail to hook up with someone permanently in your twenties and last until you are thirty, I don't think many people here and now would condemn
you for having a few relationships. Time is a factor and no one, men or women, should be expected to save themselves (That's my culture talking.) But
if your attitude is "Find 'em, "Do" 'em, Forget 'em" then that says something about your character. You've reduced the act to a mere bodily function.
If that's what you insist it is, okay for you, but many people feel there is emotion, caring, even a spiritual aspect to being with someone that you
lose if you treat it in a cavalier fashion.
If you meet someone who admits (or brags) to 600, I would submit to you that he is damaged goods. You know for certain that he is shooting for 700,
and that the 601st is just a minor milestone on the way. He's not going to suddenly "settle down:" and be with a one and only for the rest of his
life. If you believe that, you're delusional.
As a mentor of mine explained to me, "Passion is an energy that passes" so that you had best be ready for that overwhelming urge to copulate with
someone new to slow down as you get used to that person. That is obviously a built-in and natural phenomenon. We're built that way on purpose to
perpetuate the species. Would I have liked more variety in my last? Sure. There are times I should have been more persistent and I would have called
it good. But there are also times in my past where I did not take the person into account as I should have because I was so hungry that I allowed my
passion to control me. In those cases I would not have called it good. Indeed, I am ashamed.
So, yes, quantity does matter. How it matters depends upon you because your mileage may vary. It's all about what you are willing to live with and the
chances you take. But don't pretend it doesn't matter. If you don't think so, you'll see eventually.
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