reply to post by mutatismutandis
You and your wife have my prayers. I think other posters had good words for you - look at this from the other perspective: the surgery has a 75%
SUCCESS rate and, like one responder said, someone who has performed this surgery before will have an even better success rate than that. All forms
of medical treatment get better all the time. I had a very difficult surgery over 20 years ago for a condition that had been untreated for close to
15 years. I was told that they hoped it would last 5-10 years, but my surgeon was a pioneer in that field, he invented new technique and new tools
and i put my faith in Creator, in him and in myself. My recovery was incredibly fast and, over 20 years later, what he did is still working.
As another said, a 75% success rate is way better odds for a bright future than a 100% failure rate if nothing is done. Even if she doesn't fully
regain what nerve loss she's suffered already, she WILL regain a lot of it and there will be no more lost (that was my personal experience). We are
very resilient, resourceful creatures and we find many ways to work around physical challenges. She will, too, as she's obviously a very strong
young woman. Have faith in her, in yourself and in the Creator.
I would suggest contacting the spinal research portion of the Mayo Clinic and get referrals from them. Think of the best, most well-respected medical
places and contact ALL them for references. The University of Texas Health Science Center at Tyler, TX comes to mind - this place has invented more
state of the art procedures than nearly anywhere. So, too, do I think of the University Medical Center in Lubbock, TX - another place of
Maybe all who read your post can begin to offer the names of the best places in their areas they know of and you could compile a list to begin
contacting? Can you edit your OP to ask for that information?
Remain prayerful, positive and pro-active. My mother was killed by doctors (and, sadly but frankly, her own stubbornness to seek and obtain a
different source of treatment) 10 years ago, so i do understand your anger to an extent (in the same way that you could understand mine - similar
situations; different family members), but anger has never solved anything. In fact, it usually makes it worse.
You'll feel much better, and so will your wife, if you devote yourself to positive attitude and pro-active seeking of answers; by finding THE best
doctor and then getting her there.
Here's wishing the two of you a happy 75th wedding anniversary. Now, you go make it happen! I have faith in YOU!