reply to post by sliznut
So am I a kook?
Absolutely not... I say again, a_b_s_o_l_u_t_e_l_y not.
I did not find fault with any item on your list. I find you a mature and reasoning person who knows so much more than most. Like knowing the bible was
written by man and is flawed. Like spirituality, not religion. Like real prayer, etc.
However, if you are married to someone who has her belief system centered around churchianity, you will have trouble down the road. The modern church
is so focused on their interpretation of things and imposing that definition on everybody else. It is a heavy, heavy guilt burden that indoctrinated
people bear to let that go (and not go). Their religious beliefs are based on "going to church". Not going is a sin.
I don't know how that works right now between you and yours, but you will have trouble down the road whether you personally go or not. That spell to
go to church is so strong that some people (the "faithful") will always feel guilty for not going. If the schedule says go every week then you are
"going to hell" if you don't attend.
Damned if you do, and damned if you don't. I am not so worried about your mother and her best wishes about drinking and cigs, she's just being your
mother. You can tell her, "Yes mom, okay mom". I wouldn't even worry about cussing. There is no such thing as "dirty words". Its another guilt
trip people use to control you when you are around them.
The real warning about cussing comes from "cursing" which comes from putting a curse or hex on people. "Swearing" is too. " I swear to God, that
if you ever do that again, I..." Thats a threat or promise to get someone back. Or using a term like, "Damn you". Or, "Goddamn you." or,
"Goddamn it". That is invoking Gods name (using Gods name in vain). Saying "Jesus Christ"; also in vain. Also placing actual curses or hexes on
people. "A curse on you!" Bad ju ju.
Now a days we think it means don't say words like shlt and arse and such. Those are funny and have little to do with cursing or cussing or swearing
as originally intended.
The real concern here is where you and your wife stand in regards to church going and bible thumping and modern organized religious interpretations of
the bible. Good luck with that in the long run. Never argue about it with a church bot, there is only dogma and ridicule. Leave it alone for now, and
let her practice her beliefs if she wants. If you try to fix her, people at church will tell her you are the devil trying to tear her away from
Try and always treat her with kindness and set the example I know you are. This should win her over in time. She will see your true love by example
and slowly draw away from the clutches of the other church bots on her own. People at church talk a good line about helping others, but really they
don't. They mostly just give money or "pray for you" using "going to church" as their excuse to say they are religious and or "spiritual".
You already know that it seems, don't doubt it. It will work itself out in the end.