One of the last taboes: women being envious of other women at work, page 1
Topic started on 22-6-2012 @ 09:30 AM by QueenofWeird
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This is a site with first an article and then reactions by mostly women. Topic: how women treat other women at the work place. The writer proposes that females should not act sexy with men so not to become the target of the other females' wrath.
Slippery slope, because women (not all!) tend to scrutinize the behavior of the other women with a microscope. That's why they think things like "slut" only because a women is good looking.
Now I am myself a women and sick and tired of women. Well except for the 1 percent that's like me: not easily jealous. In my personal life I am ok now with having no female friends. But my issue is with work; job interviews with women tend to have this je ne sais quoi which I don't like. Like the soft growling of animal. Usually this means I won't get the job.
Now job interviews with men are mostly pleasant, sometimes I get hired and sometimes I don't. So men are capable of not letting their genitals decide for them. Nice to know.
I wear make up and tight fitting clothes without being trashy. I do show a bit of cleavage. When having a job interview with a woman the cleavage is not shown and I don't use sexy lipstick colors. So I on purpose de-sexualize my self. Making my self "neutral" so to say.
What do you guys think about female envy at the work place? Love to hear your stories and tips.
This is a site with first an article and then reactions by mostly women. Topic: how women treat other women at the work place. The writer proposes that females should not act sexy with men so not to become the target of the other females' wrath.
Slippery slope, because women (not all!) tend to scrutinize the behavior of the other women with a microscope. That's why they think things like "slut" only because a women is good looking.
Now I am myself a women and sick and tired of women. Well except for the 1 percent that's like me: not easily jealous. In my personal life I am ok now with having no female friends. But my issue is with work; job interviews with women tend to have this je ne sais quoi which I don't like. Like the soft growling of animal. Usually this means I won't get the job.
Now job interviews with men are mostly pleasant, sometimes I get hired and sometimes I don't. So men are capable of not letting their genitals decide for them. Nice to know.
I wear make up and tight fitting clothes without being trashy. I do show a bit of cleavage. When having a job interview with a woman the cleavage is not shown and I don't use sexy lipstick colors. So I on purpose de-sexualize my self. Making my self "neutral" so to say.
What do you guys think about female envy at the work place? Love to hear your stories and tips.
reply posted on 22-6-2012 @ 09:43 AM by LightSpeedDriver
reply to post by QueenofWeird
I can't say it's a problem I've ever had (I'm male, old and ugly) but there was a news article I read. It was stated that (via research) attractive women should not send a photo with their resume. The point was that some people (women?) who did the selections on who to invite for an interview would often not invite the attractive people.
How true it is I cannot say but women can be quite strange at work sometimes. A lot of competition for some reason that they guys didn't seem to exhibit amongst themselves.
I can't say it's a problem I've ever had (I'm male, old and ugly) but there was a news article I read. It was stated that (via research) attractive women should not send a photo with their resume. The point was that some people (women?) who did the selections on who to invite for an interview would often not invite the attractive people.
How true it is I cannot say but women can be quite strange at work sometimes. A lot of competition for some reason that they guys didn't seem to exhibit amongst themselves.
reply posted on 22-6-2012 @ 09:46 AM by InTheLight
reply to post by LightSpeedDriver
I have witnessed men exhibiting Hitler-like controlling power over one another. Which is worse do you think?
I have witnessed men exhibiting Hitler-like controlling power over one another. Which is worse do you think?
reply posted on 22-6-2012 @ 09:47 AM by Rufflen
reply to post by QueenofWeird
A friend of mine once told me that "B*tches is b*tches and n*ggaz is n*ggaz." He's a real piece of work.
I think what he was trying to say, in his own drug-addled way, is that people are all the same to an extent. No matter how far we've evolved and advanced, no matter how civilized we pretend to be, human beings are still just animals subject to old instincts and urges. Women get jealous in sexualized ways, as you've said. Men tend to focus more on productivity; you'll see all the time where men get mad at an overachiever or a brown noser. It's all just part of how we are. Or as my friend above would explain it, "Because chemicals."
A friend of mine once told me that "B*tches is b*tches and n*ggaz is n*ggaz." He's a real piece of work.
I think what he was trying to say, in his own drug-addled way, is that people are all the same to an extent. No matter how far we've evolved and advanced, no matter how civilized we pretend to be, human beings are still just animals subject to old instincts and urges. Women get jealous in sexualized ways, as you've said. Men tend to focus more on productivity; you'll see all the time where men get mad at an overachiever or a brown noser. It's all just part of how we are. Or as my friend above would explain it, "Because chemicals."
reply posted on 22-6-2012 @ 09:53 AM by QueenofWeird
Originally posted by LightSpeedDriver
reply to post by QueenofWeird
I can't say it's a problem I've ever had (I'm male, old and ugly) but there was a news article I read. It was stated that (via research) attractive women should not send a photo with their resume. The point was that some people (women?) who did the selections on who to invite for an interview would often not invite the attractive people.
How true it is I cannot say but women can be quite strange at work sometimes. A lot of competition for some reason that they guys didn't seem to exhibit amongst themselves.
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Yes I know that article, indeed it were women who didn't like the pretty females. By the way I like certain old ugly geezersBy the way, where is that nether world? Australia or the land of the dead? Just curious
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reply posted on 22-6-2012 @ 09:53 AM by InTheLight
reply to post by LightSpeedDriver
We use to receive resumes with photos from mostly men, very few women. They were never invited in for interviews because sending your photo with your resume is considered bad form.
In addition, it depends on the workplace. In an academic setting with academics and intellectuals, male or female, the rampant pettiness and "I'm better than you" attitudes is quite entertaining to watch. Oh the drama.
We use to receive resumes with photos from mostly men, very few women. They were never invited in for interviews because sending your photo with your resume is considered bad form.
In addition, it depends on the workplace. In an academic setting with academics and intellectuals, male or female, the rampant pettiness and "I'm better than you" attitudes is quite entertaining to watch. Oh the drama.
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reply posted on 22-6-2012 @ 09:55 AM by QueenofWeird
reply to post by InTheLight
Let's not start THAT game. I am a woman (last time I checked) and my topic is how women treat women on the work floor.
Let's not start THAT game. I am a woman (last time I checked) and my topic is how women treat women on the work floor.
edit on 22-6-2012 by QueenofWeird because: the second women I wrote omen!
reply posted on 22-6-2012 @ 09:56 AM by QueenofWeird
reply to post by InTheLight
Ok, so in your opinion what kind of behavior is evoking catty responses by women?
Ok, so in your opinion what kind of behavior is evoking catty responses by women?
reply posted on 22-6-2012 @ 09:57 AM by InTheLight
reply to post by QueenofWeird
What game do you refer? I'm just relaying what I've witnessed and experienced in the workplace.
What game do you refer? I'm just relaying what I've witnessed and experienced in the workplace.
reply posted on 22-6-2012 @ 09:58 AM by QueenofWeird
Originally posted by InTheLight
reply to post by QueenofWeird
What game do you refer? I'm just relaying what I've witnessed and experienced in the workplace.
The going on a tangent game I meant. Sure men behaving brutally with other men is disgusting, yet not my topic. Strangely enough I want this thread to go about what I wrote in the OP
edit on 22-6-2012 by QueenofWeird because: (no reason given)
reply posted on 22-6-2012 @ 10:03 AM by InTheLight
reply to post by QueenofWeird
Again, I have not and still do not experience or witness very much of what you do. So, all I am saying is that your experiences with these types of women may be just your bad luck, or actions and behaviour may play a part in eliciting perceived jealous? reactions in other women.
Again, I have not and still do not experience or witness very much of what you do. So, all I am saying is that your experiences with these types of women may be just your bad luck, or actions and behaviour may play a part in eliciting perceived jealous? reactions in other women.
reply posted on 22-6-2012 @ 10:05 AM by QueenofWeird
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Yes I know the theories, yet it's men who chase women because of not getting pregnant/carrying a baby and having the supplies to impregnate a lot of women (which means that we follow the same routine as animals were a lot are born and most die shortly....even though we have one child at a time; I mean not all women who are impregnated by the men are in the position to ensure survival of the new born).
This means that evolution should have created females that select the more nerdy men instead of being obsessed with other women. It's all energy wasted trying to prevent other women getting the men while it's the men that should be "addressed" (By selecting less macho men).
Originally posted by Rufflen
reply to post by QueenofWeird
A friend of mine once told me that "B*tches is b*tches and n*ggaz is n*ggaz." He's a real piece of work.
I think what he was trying to say, in his own drug-addled way, is that people are all the same to an extent. No matter how far we've evolved and advanced, no matter how civilized we pretend to be, human beings are still just animals subject to old instincts and urges. Women get jealous in sexualized ways, as you've said. Men tend to focus more on productivity; you'll see all the time where men get mad at an overachiever or a brown noser. It's all just part of how we are. Or as my friend above would explain it, "Because chemicals."
Yes I know the theories, yet it's men who chase women because of not getting pregnant/carrying a baby and having the supplies to impregnate a lot of women (which means that we follow the same routine as animals were a lot are born and most die shortly....even though we have one child at a time; I mean not all women who are impregnated by the men are in the position to ensure survival of the new born).
This means that evolution should have created females that select the more nerdy men instead of being obsessed with other women. It's all energy wasted trying to prevent other women getting the men while it's the men that should be "addressed" (By selecting less macho men).
reply posted on 22-6-2012 @ 10:07 AM by QueenofWeird
reply to post by InTheLight
I do have a theory: people who love sex tend to be sexy in one way or another. Men pick up the signals of a female that is "willing" to use evolution-like terms. But so do women pick up the availability of other women!
That's why at least at an interview with a woman I become less sexy.
So how sexy were you feeling at the work place?
EDIT: may I ask a candid question? What's your age and how do you feel towards sexy women at work?
I do have a theory: people who love sex tend to be sexy in one way or another. Men pick up the signals of a female that is "willing" to use evolution-like terms. But so do women pick up the availability of other women!
That's why at least at an interview with a woman I become less sexy.
So how sexy were you feeling at the work place?
EDIT: may I ask a candid question? What's your age and how do you feel towards sexy women at work?
edit on 22-6-2012 by QueenofWeird because: (no reason given)
) exist and I have to cope with them. In
the mean while I can't behave un-sexy because I am not!
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