Originally posted by isyeye
Violence is not the answer to violence...There are other ways to solve the problem.
This just sends the wrong message. While I do see the point of what the teacher did, it still tells children to fight back with fist instead of
My son got smacked in the face by a bully, several times because the bully stalked into the computer room and told him to move now, (my son is
gentlest young man with the biggest heart, he was 8) when he got in the car, after school, the look on his face broke my heart.
He told me his story and what happened (bottom lip wobbled bravely the whole time) I digested it and thought all manner of nasty things to do to this
kid. Knee jerk mother kind of thoughts...
It just ran through my head immediately, little bugger!
"what did you do?" I demanded
"I walked away and told the teachers"
Instead of myself going into the school and trying to talk to the teachers, who are so bored with hearing it, they did nothing (my son says). I got
really angry then and took it out on my son.
"Don't you ever walk away from a bully like that again! Dry your eyes!" I roused at him
"If they lay a hand on you, then you go all out, smack them back! Windmill man, if you down't think you can swing properly! If he's done it once,
he's comin' back for more! that's what they do. Don't worry about the teachers, I will defend you. But don't you even back down from something
that will only hurt for a moment and suffer a bully if he's in your face."
"That goes for seeing someone being bullied as well, so harden up son!"
The kid did try again, my son didn't hesitate, and I had a very different kid on my hands from that day forth. He's gentle AND confident now, so
thanks bully kid in his primary school. I hope you managed to get yourself past your parents rubbish to be a different person too x
I don't agree with the teacher in the op story either (I sympathise but that's not the way), that kid probably has a terrible home life, that's
where it starts. I wonder what will happen to him now?
I vote for the parents being lined up and slapped instead always.
Good parenting is knowing when to be hard and when to be soft, but it takes both (and it's not always comfortable for us, because it's not about us)
to help make amazing kids.
You are always responsible until they (the kids) tell you otherwise.