posted on Jun, 18 2012 @ 08:05 PM
I LOVED your post, OP. Feminists are now something completely different than what they were in the 60s and 70s.
The original idea of feminism was about choice. How dare some screechy harpy go on the air and say that a stay-at-home mom is "bringing down all
women"?? What a stupid statement.
My honest feeling, after thinking about it for many years and having gone through working while trying to deal with small children, is that women who
get to stay home with their children are blessed, as are their families. I can't tell you how many times the daycare called, saying my kid had a
fever or whatever and I had to come pick them up. That meant begging the boss for time off. My older child was asthmatic and there were many times
that I had to just leave work and take her to the hospital. Yet my boss acted pissy and said, "Isn't there anybody else who could do that?"
Also, as another poster pointed out, women who work ALSO have to do the vast majority of work at home. Men wonder why their partners don't feel like
it when it comes to bedroom time in the evening....try commuting, working full-time, then coming home after picking up the kids and deal with meals,
cleaning. laundry, homework, and all the other chores that come with running a household. When I did that, I was cranky, irritable, continually
exhausted, and used to have fantasies that I would end up sick in the hospital....How wonderful that would be, just to lay there and GET SOME
Approximately 3 years ago, I finally put my foot down and said that I was tired of having two full-time jobs. I had no weekends, just time off from
work to do a crap-ton of housework. So I told my husband, either he pitched in 50%, or I was going to quit. Since he thinks all housework is
"women's work", he agreed that I should quit.
I still do plenty of work. I do my share, and then some. I just don't have to kill myself doing two jobs now.
The women's movement has screwed women over. I truly believe that. Men haven't really changed AT ALL. Women's situations have changed, for the
worse. No kid should be raised by daycare. Families are rushed, stressed, unable to spend quality time together, and there is too much frozen and
fast food being served because mommy is too burned out to cook.
I told both my daughters, when they have kids, stay home with them. I hope there will come a day when one parent, whether the mom or dad, stays at
home with the kids and makes a home for the family.
But that would mean that jobs would have to pay a liveable wage, so that families could live on one income....and that would hurt the corporate bottom
line, wouldn't it?