reply to post by Mizzijr
Ok OP, I hope you get this, since it's 4 pages past, but I've had some experience here(unfortunately), so this may help.
I dated a girl back when I was 20-21, who was a very violent woman if you made her mad. I found out the hard way around our 2nd month of dating, when
she got mad at something I said, and pushed me into a wall(nail was sticking out, that was fun). I told her it was finished, but because I was
stupid, and in love, I stuck with her for a bit over 9 months.............OF HELL!!!!!
Seriously, though, I found out the hard way to never touch them. See, there are things you need to worry about. All your sister has to do is say you
hit her, touched her, anything really without any proof, and you're screwed. My ex used to hit me, kick me, claw at my face, and even a few times
tried to bite me. When it got really bad, I would push her away from me, so I could leave the house, or lock myself in another room until she cooled
off. Well, once pushed(no matter how softly), she would fly across the room, all dramatically, and act like I struck her. I even once tried to hold
her wrists, so she couldn't hit me, and she would scream at the top of her lungs "LET ME GOOO!!!!!", so our neighbors would think I was abusing
her, rather than her abusing me.
So, during the times cops were called, I would be the one in trouble. Why? Because I'm a guy. Women don't need proof, at least not in what I've
seen in my life. BUT, you can turn the table around. How? Get proof. Towards the end of our relationship, my ex tried getting a permanent
restraining order on me(because I asked her to pay back the $400 I loaned her), and told a bunch of bogus lies. Lies such as I hit her regularly, I
hit her 2 year old son(biggest load of bull, only slapped his hand once, when he was choking the cat), and threatened to kill her ex. She gave them a
bunch of BS, all so she could hurt me more than she did, and put me on that Domestic Violence list. I immediately got a lawyer, and tried to get one
on her. I had the proof.
After many of the fights, I went to my moms house, and had them take pictures of my face. She even clawed my eye once, causing it to be red for days.
She once got so mad at me for not opening my door, that she broke a candle encased in glass on the door, leaving a big circular mark with glass in
it. What was really messed up, is when I opened the door, she had her son in her arms. Why would you do that with your son? So I took pictures of
that. Pretty much, I took pictures of everything she did, to make sure I had proof. Thankfully, I also had neighbors(who she tried to make them
think I was the bad one) testify on my behalf, because thankfully, they knew she was the aggressor/crazy one.
So when we went to court to get a restraining order on her as well. Thanks to my lawyer, and the many pictures of her actions, I had the charges
dropped. Why? Because she worked at an old folks home. If she had a restraining order on her, she'd be fired. I couldn't prove I didn't do the
things she claimed, but I could prove that she did the ones I claimed.
So, I know it's along story, I'm sorry, it's just stuff like this really hits close to home, and I hate to see other guys deal with it. It's an
unfair system for males in this regard. But, get proof of everything. Do you have a camera? Cellphone? If so, record videos. While you're
recording the videos of them fighting, mention to them that you're filming, and you ARE going to show this to social services and/or the police.
Talk about why the fighting is happening. Chances are, if the aggressive sister gets mad at you for recording, she may come at you to stop you. Once
again, it's on film.
Unfortunately, you can't touch them. Because they can make up lies to get you in trouble. But, as long as you have proof, you'll be safe, for the
most part. Other than that, all I can say is goodluck, my friend. You're doing something great trying to help your family. Just don't let them
ruin you in the process.