reply to post by Tasmanaut
I am broken. I can never experience a healthy relationship, as all previous experiences lead me to acting a certain way and dumping it all on
whoever I meet. I can't even talk to people. I find women repulsive and stupid, exactly how they must view me. The advice I've received, while
useful and well intentioned, is something I cannot follow. I sabotage myself from enjoying this life. I burn all my bridges, when there is
uncertainty, I will force a conclusion. I make damn sure that in the end, there can be no doubt as to who is at fault.
Yeah, you're probably going to feel this way for a few more years...before you get a few more years on you, and then feel differently. Don't even
believe me now. Five years from now, come back to this thread, and then you can appreciate it. I won't even say I told you so.
Here's my advice, take it or leave it.
1) Don't go looking for a relationship. It happens best when you AREN'T looking for it. (and it radiates desperation, i.e. chick repellent).
2) Be confident in who you are, own it. This isn't the same as being cocky, but relax yourself, and just play it cool. Whatever happens,
happens...that's your motto. Think positive, not negative.
3) Learn to be a good LISTENER, especially to girls. If a girl seems troubled, be interested in why, and not with the ulterior motive of getting in
her pants. I've learned a LOT about women by simply listening to them. Sure, this means you'll likely be trapped in the "friend zone" for most of
school...but afterwards, you'll be a hell of a catch, and you'll be far more prepared than the typical guy, when responding to otherwise mysterious
I used to be pretty much a wallflower in High School. Only had one girlfriend in school (and a fellow wallflower). But, even though I'm not Tom
Cruise in the looks department (and a few more years on me than in my avatar pic), I can easily walk up to the hottest girl in the room and strike up
a conversation without tripping over myself.
Not that I do this much, as I'm a happily married guy..but lets just say I've ticked most male fantasies off my list, if you catch my drift.
It's really not as hopeless as you think it is...but I won't kid you that this is just a rough time you have to get through, to get to the best and
rest of your life. Tread well friend.