posted on Jun, 9 2012 @ 06:50 PM
Well, as an older woman, there are a few things that I picked up from reading your first thread about you and this "princess".
1. You are too quick to put a woman on a pedestal. You just met this woman, you don't really know her, and just because you spent a magical night
together loaded and playing music and talking, does not a bond make.
2. You are way too quick to fall in what you consider love. Everybody's idea of love is different, but for most women, a guy who falls in love
right away and confesses it is a turn-off, because we know that he doesn't see us as we are, but as he imagines us to be.
3. She admitted that she wasn't looking for a relationship. Obviously she just wanted some sex. Did you not take her at her word, or did you think
that something magical would happen to make her change her mind?
4. Most women know that, a guy who falls in love too quickly will also fall out of love just as quick. It indicates emotional instability and that
scares us, since we are usually the ones with the mood swings.
Considering that most women are looking for a stable relationship, I suspect that you may come on too strongly at first. Women want that love, but
not right off the bat, because it doesn't make sense. You cannot rush love (although you can feel instantly infatuated).
My advice to you, young man, is to slow your roll....A LOT. Take the time to get to know somebody, and if you feel the overwhelming urge to say "I
love you", bite your tongue and keep it to yourself. Most women want to be loved and appreciated for who they are, and there is no way on God's
Green Earth that you can make a determination like that in one or two nights.
Bottom line: Slowly getting to know each other is best. Showing desperation and neediness will send women running as quickly as when women show it
You may want to do some counseling to get at the root of why the need to live in a fantasy world of princesses, instant love, and happily ever after.
Life isn't like that. Take your time, and always be a bit mysterious. A relationship is a journey of discovery, and if you pour it all on in one
fell swoop, it is too overwhelming. Be cool, not a bubbling cauldron of intensity.
All the best in any case.