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willpower do you have it? Whats the longest you have gone without any sexual activity

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posted on Jun, 7 2012 @ 07:03 AM
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Originally posted by Kangaruex4Ewe

Originally posted by digital01anarchy

Originally posted by LightSpeedDriver
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I would hazard the guess that your "problem" is not sex, masturbation or your own imagination but rather the porn. To use a cliché, monkey see, monkey do. The male brain is visually wired, in contrast to the female brain. So the theory goes anyway.

In other words, if you stop watching porn, you will have less sexually orientated thoughts. Porn is about as real as democracy.



Porn was an issue lol! yes sex at the time wasn't a problem because i just got out of a 3 year relationship. I wanted to try the concept out. As a man I hated the control that women have over us with sex. I'm not a cheater so i had to wait it out and I hated it when she didn't want to. That led to the concept of me wanting to be in better control of my sexual urges.

Women hate it when you cant be lead around by your junk and will call you just about every name in the book because some women tie how sexually active you are in the relationship to how good looking they are.They use that power like a 5 year old kid with favorite toy. In turn it makes them feel powerful and totally in control of the relationship making you jump through hoops for them like some kind of dog.

Sex is used for manipulation, it is a weapon for women. When you don't put up with it that power is gone. when you dont cheat as well they are amazed and respect kind of grows out of it as well as trust


Not ALL women are like that. If my husband walked around like he didn't have "A Pair" I would be pissed to say the least. I didn't want to marry a puppy on a leash. I can not respect any man that gets led around by his "Junk" as you say. I know many other women who feel the same. If he has no backbone... He is no good to me. I could live alone and agree with myself if that's what I wanted.

Find a woman and not a girl. Maybe things will change a bit after that.


You may be a good women but trust me good women are in short supply these days. I have known 40 year old woman who acted like that, she had a kid full grown too. I tend to hear that line a lot from women few have lived up to challenge. Women want backbone until you show it and most of the time we have to go through hell to prove we have one.




posted on Jun, 7 2012 @ 07:09 AM
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Is your hubby a righty or a lefty? Cause I can garantee you that that wrist is as used up as an alcoholics liver.
if he says: It's been a month since I masturbated, he means, I masturbated last night while you were sleeping...

There is not a social norm as to sexual activity, it is simply something humans do, like sport, drawing, playing...
Sex is supposed to be fun, when it's not, the urge to engage is pretty dimmed down.

How long have I gone? Maybe a month or so due to depression. How long without actual sex? Well I was in a 10 year long relationship so I'd have to say about 2 years consecutive... Pretty damn hard for a guy!!



posted on Jun, 7 2012 @ 07:11 AM
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Originally posted by chiefsmom
I'm really glad the other women here have great relationships, with or without sex.
I do as well, but I have been with my husband for 17 years, am just over 40 and not ashamed to say I can't go more than a few days without it. Hubby just really still gets me fired up just looking at him.


Jesus thank you! For being the only honest women here apparently. Don't feed into that BS line its lies. A man is still a man people are still people everyone still has urges they get less with age but i doubt the husband is following the no masturbation rule lol. A year without masturbation and sex is a F@#king lie. Women used to try things like this that why old 1800's physiologist had sexual instruments to give women orgasms. They went crazy and rightfully so.

heres a link for the cure to hysteria for women during the 1800's www.explorehistoricalif.com...
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And im sure something like what this is in your sock drawer or hidden in a pillow. years my asre
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posted on Jun, 7 2012 @ 07:16 AM
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Originally posted by NoLoveInFear46and2
reply to post by Threegirls
 


Is your hubby a righty or a lefty? Cause I can garantee you that that wrist is as used up as an alcoholics liver.
if he says: It's been a month since I masturbated, he means, I masturbated last night while you were sleeping...

There is not a social norm as to sexual activity, it is simply something humans do, like sport, drawing, playing...
Sex is supposed to be fun, when it's not, the urge to engage is pretty dimmed down.

How long have I gone? Maybe a month or so due to depression. How long without actual sex? Well I was in a 10 year long relationship so I'd have to say about 2 years consecutive... Pretty damn hard for a guy!!


thank you wow honesty. BS I went a year without any sexual activity lol get bent also I'm sure your husband isn't happy about that.



posted on Jun, 7 2012 @ 07:17 AM
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Originally posted by chiefsmom
I'm really glad the other women here have great relationships, with or without sex.
I do as well, but I have been with my husband for 17 years, am just over 40 and not ashamed to say I can't go more than a few days without it. Hubby just really still gets me fired up just looking at him.


Ha!! That is awesome!

I remember being that way for a long time! My husband has health issues that prevent tons of fun in the bedroom all the time and I suppose i have acclimated myself to it over time. Nothing wrong with a woman coming out and saying what you did though. I love it!



posted on Jun, 7 2012 @ 07:20 AM
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Yesterday the longest I went without sexual activity was until about 3pm, and then about another hour and a half later. OH didn't get in from work until 7pm though.



posted on Jun, 7 2012 @ 07:26 AM
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Well, I'm sorry about the health issues, and in situations like that, I can totally understand the "lack of". I know that if that ever became the case with us, our relationship would still be good without it.
I was just raised in a family that is open about these issues. Didn't really care to hear it, but my grandmother said she and grandpa were still "active" until he passed away in his 70's.



posted on Jun, 7 2012 @ 07:29 AM
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Your hubby is one lucky man, I just had to say it. And I'm surely not the only one who thought this.

And porn is not the culprit for making us men pervs, it's our nasty mind!!



posted on Jun, 7 2012 @ 07:32 AM
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Originally posted by chiefsmom
reply to post by Kangaruex4Ewe
 


Well, I'm sorry about the health issues, and in situations like that, I can totally understand the "lack of". I know that if that ever became the case with us, our relationship would still be good without it.
I was just raised in a family that is open about these issues. Didn't really care to hear it, but my grandmother said she and grandpa were still "active" until he passed away in his 70's.



We NEVER talked about it! My mom would have looked like this...
and my dad would have looked like this...
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My grandparents slept in different beds like Ozzy and Harriet! But it is good to know that a marriage can survive that. Not many folks listen carefully when it comes to the "For sickness and health" and the "For better or worse" vows.

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posted on Jun, 7 2012 @ 07:32 AM
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I'm a dude, I know you women can go very long without it, dudes just lie about it, which isn't actually something bad, anyone who judges thier other half for masturbating has some personnal issues.

I'm a righty...



posted on Jun, 7 2012 @ 07:37 AM
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you sound like me...lol



posted on Jun, 7 2012 @ 07:48 AM
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Originally posted by NoLoveInFear46and2
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I'm a dude, I know you women can go very long without it, dudes just lie about it, which isn't actually something bad, anyone who judges thier other half for masturbating has some personnal issues.

I'm a righty...


Man that's not the issue I don't think anyone is judging anyone based on masturbating. Dudes dont lie as much as women about it trust me. that's the issue I'm having right now I posted a story about people going without any sexual activity meaning everything masturbation included. And i have these yoda master monks claiming years without sex or touching them selves its ludicrous. Gandhi was said to have went 15 years but that man could of starved himself to death though a hunger strike his willpower was made out of steel Gandhi could get beaten and not act out with violence.

I hate to judge others but i hear women say this stuff all the time and im not 14 anymore and know its bs.



posted on Jun, 7 2012 @ 07:59 AM
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Originally posted by digital01anarchy

Originally posted by NoLoveInFear46and2
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I'm a dude, I know you women can go very long without it, dudes just lie about it, which isn't actually something bad, anyone who judges thier other half for masturbating has some personnal issues.

I'm a righty...


Man that's not the issue I don't think anyone is judging anyone based on masturbating. Dudes dont lie as much as women about it trust me. that's the issue I'm having right now I posted a story about people going without any sexual activity meaning everything masturbation included. And i have these yoda master monks claiming years without sex or touching them selves its ludicrous. Gandhi was said to have went 15 years but that man could of starved himself to death though a hunger strike his willpower was made out of steel Gandhi could get beaten and not act out with violence.

I hate to judge others but i hear women say this stuff all the time and im not 14 anymore and know its bs.


It's not ALL BS...

en.wikipedia.org...


Sexual activity and sexuality
While some asexuals masturbate as a solitary form of release or have sex for the benefit of a romantic partner (see above), others do not.[6] The Kinsey Institute sponsored another small survey on the topic in 2007, which found that self-identified asexuals "reported significantly less desire for sex with a partner, lower sexual arousability, and lower sexual excitation but did not differ consistently from non-asexuals in their sexual inhibition scores or their desire to masturbate".[6]

A 1977 paper entitled Asexual and Autoerotic Women: Two Invisible Groups, by Myra T. Johnson, may be the first paper explicitly devoted to asexuality in humans. Johnson defines asexuals as those men and women "who, regardless of physical or emotional condition, actual sexual history, and marital status or ideological orientation, seem to prefer not to engage in sexual activity." She contrasts autoerotic women with asexual women: "The asexual woman [...] has no sexual desires at all [but] the autoerotic woman [...] recognizes such desires but prefers to satisfy them alone."


It is possible. For people with average sex lives and needs this is hard to understand, but there are people who just have ZERO desire for the whole act.
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posted on Jun, 7 2012 @ 08:07 AM
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I have to agree with Kanga, there are people for whom the desire just isn't there or fades over time.
So, maybe your question should be directed to people with "normal" sex drives.

I did find the movie entertaining, but in real life, I don't see the point in giving up "everything" if you don't have to.
You would have a world full of crabby people!

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posted on Jun, 7 2012 @ 08:16 AM
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yes its a survey. So now the women who posted about it are asexual
Im talking about willpower these people are not using willpower they honestly have no sex drive it not something they actively seeking to do.

One commonly cited study published in 2004 placed the prevalence of asexuality at 1% yet this site has two people and both in the same thread


I'm talking about healthy normal people with normal sex drives struggling against the urge to do anything sexual



posted on Jun, 7 2012 @ 08:31 AM
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Originally posted by chiefsmom
reply to post by digital01anarchy
 


I have to agree with Kanga, there are people for whom the desire just isn't there or fades over time.
So, maybe your question should be directed to people with "normal" sex drives.

I did find the movie entertaining, but in real life, I don't see the point in giving up "everything" if you don't have to.
You would have a world full of crabby people!

edit on 7-6-2012 by chiefsmom because: afterthought


I guess i should be more descriptive next time. I did post after you had already had sex yet two people decided they would say 12 or 13 years and thought it was clever. I just hate how a good thread got derailed by 2 women claiming to be super will powered in this area. I'm sure it scared a lot of people off from honestly posting or posting at all. And whats sad is i knew it would happen. That first women was justifying her sexless marriage acting like her willpower was godlike and relationship was made of steel bs. Then another women chimed in and had a hug fest about how awesome their relationships although i understand if your doing it for your husband who cant have sex but not masturbating with no sex because he has health issues sounds like bs.

I posted this because i honestly did it and it was amazingly hard. Then the one uppers came into the thread and destroyed any type of honest conversation about the topic with amazing sexless marriages filled with love. I know why no guys posted in here after that crap, I wanted to leave my own thread. I'm talking about realistic goals and self discipline here and no-humpty and no-dumty throw out years and make it sound easy at which point people say f@#k that i quit.
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posted on Jun, 7 2012 @ 08:42 AM
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Originally posted by digital01anarchy

Originally posted by chiefsmom
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I have to agree with Kanga, there are people for whom the desire just isn't there or fades over time.
So, maybe your question should be directed to people with "normal" sex drives.

I did find the movie entertaining, but in real life, I don't see the point in giving up "everything" if you don't have to.
You would have a world full of crabby people!

edit on 7-6-2012 by chiefsmom because: afterthought


I guess i should be more descriptive next time. I did post after you had already had sex yet two people decided they would say 12 or 13 years and thought it was clever. I just hate how a good thread got derailed by 2 women claiming to be super will powered in this area. I'm sure it scared a lot of people off from honestly posting or posting at all. And whats sad is i knew it would happen. That first women was justifying her sexless marriage acting like her willpower was godlike and relationship was made of steel bs. Then another women chimed in and had a hug fest about how awesome their relationships although i understand if your doing it for your husband who cant have sex but not masturbating with no sex because he has health issues sounds like bs.


I (heart) you too.


It certainly was not my intention to derail your thread with my "hug fest" and "husbandly health problems". I apologize to you and to those whom I have "scared off" with my participation. I will endeavor not to partake in any of your future threads so that they will remain "pure and honest".



posted on Jun, 7 2012 @ 09:00 AM
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Originally posted by Kangaruex4Ewe

Originally posted by digital01anarchy

Originally posted by chiefsmom
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I have to agree with Kanga, there are people for whom the desire just isn't there or fades over time.
So, maybe your question should be directed to people with "normal" sex drives.

I did find the movie entertaining, but in real life, I don't see the point in giving up "everything" if you don't have to.
You would have a world full of crabby people!

edit on 7-6-2012 by chiefsmom because: afterthought


I guess i should be more descriptive next time. I did post after you had already had sex yet two people decided they would say 12 or 13 years and thought it was clever. I just hate how a good thread got derailed by 2 women claiming to be super will powered in this area. I'm sure it scared a lot of people off from honestly posting or posting at all. And whats sad is i knew it would happen. That first women was justifying her sexless marriage acting like her willpower was godlike and relationship was made of steel bs. Then another women chimed in and had a hug fest about how awesome their relationships although i understand if your doing it for your husband who cant have sex but not masturbating with no sex because he has health issues sounds like bs.


I (heart) you too.


It certainly was not my intention to derail your thread with my "hug fest" and "husbandly health problems". I apologize to you and to those whom I have "scared off" with my participation. I will endeavor not to partake in any of your future threads so that they will remain "pure and honest".


Good! this is what you call having a backbone lady. I wanted to keep the integrity of how hard this type of thing is so people might challenge them selves to see for themselves Hence the willpower line in the title! Also guilt isn't going to wok on me I don't feel sorry for anything i have said. What you may have said is true but you didnt considered it might be harder for some other people. You made it sound like a joke which it isn't same with that other poster. Blah who cares yada yada yada i haven't had sex or masturbated in years BULLS@#T. The most religious people who are priest and nuns have a hard time with this stuff. And to make things worse she got stars for her big fat lie



posted on Jun, 7 2012 @ 09:10 AM
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Originally posted by Kangaruex4Ewe
My grandparents slept in different beds like Ozzy and Harriet!


Umm...isn't Ozzy's wife called "Sharunnn!"?


ETA Sharon for us mere mortals.

edit on 7/6/12 by LightSpeedDriver because: ETA



posted on Jun, 7 2012 @ 09:15 AM
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since Feb 2010 till date. So, two years and 3 months.

No problem. I think I over did it in my youth, and later found that it is all over rated anyway. I feel much cleaner and released. You'll only understand this when you experience it.



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