willpower do you have it? Whats the longest you have gone without any sexual activity

About a year ago I tried testing my self to see how long i could hold out for. The idea was spawned by the 40 days and nights movie. It seemed like a joke at first I thought this is easy wow how wrong was I. At about day 10 day 12 I would have to redirect my thinking. At day 22 I couldn't go to any websites with ads in them or watch tv. day 30 was brutal i was starting to gawk at almost every woman and fantasize about them.

That's when i said screw it I'm out. The mind fights you, the ability to view pornographic material at anytime was amazingly hard to resist and that's not even it hell of it the tv with beautiful women made it hard to not want to,good looking women in short shorts seemed like a curse, "good" dreams wink wink seemed like a curse damn having one of them, then waking up and trying to progress through the day with it being on your mind was haunting lol. The thought of trying to ignore your sexual urges in its self is like a smoker trying to give up cigs, I know i have tried both.

But the experiment did yield some results as i became distinctly aware of the control it has over my mind,thoughts ect. The need for sexual activity slowed down and become more focused.

Well anyway on to you have you tried this? How good is your willpower? and please dont say 12 years because that's obvious. I'm talking about after you have had sex trying to do this.

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Do you mean refraining from masturbating too?

Originally posted by Wide-Eyes
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Do you mean refraining from masturbating too?

yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! everything lol. even in the shower.

About 13 years.

vvv

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u a monk?

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I would hazard the guess that your "problem" is not sex, masturbation or your own imagination but rather the porn. To use a cliché, monkey see, monkey do. The male brain is visually wired, in contrast to the female brain. So the theory goes anyway.

In other words, if you stop watching porn, you will have less sexually orientated thoughts. Porn is about as real as democracy.

Originally posted by VreemdeVlieendeVoorwep
About 13 years.

vvv

ha that would have been funny if i didn't already address the issue lol read the whole story next time . Yes I'm aware that you didn't until you hit puberty. The topic was after you had already had sex

Originally posted by MNnativeamer
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u a monk?

hell no lol. But the concept of just taking care of every basic need like some kind of animal urks me. I want ot have control. Self discipline is the only real control we as humans have. The more self control the more determined,focused and strong we become.

Sex is over rated.

I am mid thirties, female, athletic build, fairly attractive and married.

Sex used to be very important to me as a self confidence issue.

Once I became confident in myself, I no longer feel the drive, urge, whatsoever.

My husband and I can easily go a year without sex, we are still close and devoted.

The social pressure to conform to sexual norms doesn't affect us.

We are secure in our relationship and have agreed to 'say if either of us wants to'. It's not important to us.

Originally posted by Threegirls
Sex is over rated.

I am mid thirties, female, athletic build, fairly attractive and married.

Sex used to be very important to me as a self confidence issue.

Once I became confident in myself, I no longer feel the drive, urge, whatsoever.

My husband and I can easily go a year without sex, we are still close and devoted.

The social pressure to conform to sexual norms doesn't affect us.

We are secure in our relationship and have agreed to 'say if either of us wants to'. It's not important to us.

OUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I will never be able to do it that way, and I am 50!!!

but to come back to the OP's question. How often depends on my state of mind. I go through periods, of very little sex (that is once a week), to the state of wanting sex 3 times a day.

Originally posted by Threegirls
Sex is over rated.

I am mid thirties, female, athletic build, fairly attractive and married.

Sex used to be very important to me as a self confidence issue.

Once I became confident in myself, I no longer feel the drive, urge, whatsoever.

My husband and I can easily go a year without sex, we are still close and devoted.

The social pressure to conform to sexual norms doesn't affect us.

We are secure in our relationship and have agreed to 'say if either of us wants to'. It's not important to us.

Same here. We have gone for over two years and stayed strong. It brings about a feeling of true companionship, love, etc. if there is more to your marriage than sex IMO.

To OP... over 2 years here. I think I hit my peak at around 19/20 years old. After that I can do with or without to be honest about it.

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I have tried to keep from that type of activity but to no avail. After a vasectomy reversal a few years ago the doc told me no sexual activity for 4 weeks. It was vital for success that I follow instructions and I knew how important it was, but I only made it to 9 days... and that was murder.

Years!?!? I can't even go days... sometimes 4 times in a day... and I'm 53.

And porn is not the issue, fully clothed women do it to me...

Originally posted by LightSpeedDriver
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I would hazard the guess that your "problem" is not sex, masturbation or your own imagination but rather the porn. To use a cliché, monkey see, monkey do. The male brain is visually wired, in contrast to the female brain. So the theory goes anyway.

In other words, if you stop watching porn, you will have less sexually orientated thoughts. Porn is about as real as democracy.

Porn was an issue lol! yes sex at the time wasn't a problem because i just got out of a 3 year relationship. I wanted to try the concept out. As a man I hated the control that women have over us with sex. I'm not a cheater so i had to wait it out and I hated it when she didn't want to. That led to the concept of me wanting to be in better control of my sexual urges.

Women hate it when you cant be lead around by your junk and will call you just about every name in the book because some women tie how sexually active you are in the relationship to how good looking they are.They use that power like a 5 year old kid with favorite toy. In turn it makes them feel powerful and totally in control of the relationship making you jump through hoops for them like some kind of dog.

Sex is used for manipulation, it is a weapon for women. When you don't put up with it that power is gone. when you dont cheat as well they are amazed and respect kind of grows out of it as well as trust

Originally posted by digital01anarchy

Originally posted by LightSpeedDriver
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I would hazard the guess that your "problem" is not sex, masturbation or your own imagination but rather the porn. To use a cliché, monkey see, monkey do. The male brain is visually wired, in contrast to the female brain. So the theory goes anyway.

In other words, if you stop watching porn, you will have less sexually orientated thoughts. Porn is about as real as democracy.

Porn was an issue lol! yes sex at the time wasn't a problem because i just got out of a 3 year relationship. I wanted to try the concept out. As a man I hated the control that women have over us with sex. I'm not a cheater so i had to wait it out and I hated it when she didn't want to. That led to the concept of me wanting to be in better control of my sexual urges.

Women hate it when you cant be lead around by your junk and will call you just about every name in the book because some women tie how sexually active you are in the relationship to how good looking they are.They use that power like a 5 year old kid with favorite toy. In turn it makes them feel powerful and totally in control of the relationship making you jump through hoops for them like some kind of dog.

Sex is used for manipulation, it is a weapon for women. When you don't put up with it that power is gone. when you dont cheat as well they are amazed and respect kind of grows out of it as well as trust

Not ALL women are like that. If my husband walked around like he didn't have "A Pair" I would be pissed to say the least. I didn't want to marry a puppy on a leash. I can not respect any man that gets led around by his "Junk" as you say. I know many other women who feel the same. If he has no backbone... He is no good to me. I could live alone and agree with myself if that's what I wanted.

Find a woman and not a girl. Maybe things will change a bit after that.

silly post delete me

Originally posted by Threegirls
Sex is over rated.

I am mid thirties, female, athletic build, fairly attractive and married.

Sex used to be very important to me as a self confidence issue.

Once I became confident in myself, I no longer feel the drive, urge, whatsoever.

My husband and I can easily go a year without sex, we are still close and devoted.

The social pressure to conform to sexual norms doesn't affect us.

We are secure in our relationship and have agreed to 'say if either of us wants to'. It's not important to us.

I knew a women would chime in and give some outrageous claim I havent had sex in lets see what did the op say *10 lol. An article came out a little while ago that stated women lie more about sex then anything else good,bad,how much, how little, masturbation ect and while they can go for longer without sex they tend to masterbate after say 3 or 4 months without sex

Originally posted by haven123
i went 15 years once untill i lost my virginity

already addressed this issue! read the whole story next time please!

Originally posted by digital01anarchy
when you dont cheat as well they are amazed and respect kind of grows out of it as well as trust

Yup, right up to the moment they walk out the door for the last time.

What is this willpower that you speaketh of?
Mind you I did play WOW for 5 years, kinda gives you something else to do with your fingers.

I'm really glad the other women here have great relationships, with or without sex.
I do as well, but I have been with my husband for 17 years, am just over 40 and not ashamed to say I can't go more than a few days without it. Hubby just really still gets me fired up just looking at him.