posted on May, 27 2012 @ 06:12 AM
Some interesting replies and schools of thought . Your high school bully is a different player than a grown up bully . Which , as id d by petreus
earlier , is the key .Each is different yet similar too .
Who the bully is , his own traits , here are his own weaknesses .
This is why they say , know your enemy.
Draw a line from petty controlling behaviours and degradation , through threatening and obstructive behaviours , harassment , verbal abuse ,
deprivation , terrorism , beatings , physical punishment , torture , towards molestation ( defined.continual and chronic harassment) , depravities ,
medical torture , and all the way up to war crimes , human attrocity and genocides . Further up , geocide .
With this in mind , where is any particular bullies on this scale ?
Any bully will ask / encourage you to use illegal measures in self defence . DO NOT .
Use strictly legal measures at any level . That way , its only ever you who rings the police or even the psychs . As a LAST RESORT
As you'll be likely be calling a whole new league of unpredictable , bastardising bullies . Lets not go there either then..
Regarding the reaction / behaviours of ones own psychology , while generally bullying remains long term and psychological , and at the same time ,
physical events tend to be of snappish and sporadic occurence , is of importance . The reasons for this are that any bully or combinations of them can
have a long term wearing effect . Your showing stress and vulnerabilities is a primary reaction the bully seeks , he wishes to exploit these signs of
his effect on you . Show no effect from the bully , ignore him . Say nothing .
In this case then , a steely nerve , or at least a show of one , is number 1 every time in your defence .
Skill in martial arts boosts confidence , and crucially , crucially , your lung capacity . When any confrontation approaches , could be any time ,
draw good breaths before it happens . Quietly , and without being noticed , if possible , take air first , lots of it , as much as you can . It may be
hard , but draw breath , have it first .
You are now , five times more ready than when you first saw that bully coming . And likely more ready than he is . This is for many many physiological
and psychological reasons . Reaction times soar , strength is well up etc about 45 seconds after the practise .
Another good one , other to learn , but stretch . When you see him , stretch out arms , yawn , lean and stretch . It will show you're a moving target
, among other things , maybe he is a lazy bully today .etc .
Also , with any bully , remind yourself , your intelligence and self-preception is greater than his .
Your understanding of this life and shared environment , is more advanced .
And remember you retain the legal and moral high ground , he is the one who will ultimately , in the end , have to feel bad . Everyone has a
conscience , a sense of guilt , everyone . Everyone has mental , and physical , health issues of one kind or another , at some time in their lives .
Not being a bully yourself is a good way , in the long run , to not get bullied . Show some compassion and forgiveness and you may gain a friend .
That measure which you can serve of these things to others will be visited back upon you at some other point .