OMG!!! Is this for real??, page 5

I have to thank you for posting your situation. The same all happened to me starting 12 years ago with the exception that when TSHTF I hired a lawyer and got a very good custody/visitation schedule, which basically ruled the mother to stop messing around with the emotions of my daughter and myself. When you have a “stipulation drawn up, MAKE SURE the WORDING in EACH paragraph specifies EXACTLY what you want. This hasn’t stopped the mother from breaking the rules but when she does I have the option to take her back to court for contempt, which I already have three times. When I feel an “episode” coming on, I carry recording devices along with me to prove my case. I WISH I was smart in the beginning and had done this, but we live and learn.

The mother is bi-polar with tendencies to “flip out” and lie about things out of the blue. Even cut herself on her arm once while we were together to try to have me arrested. I am lucky I knew the police in my town that also knew the stories of her whole family being crazy. The police incidents were many mainly because I walked away from her ranting and gave up on listening to her lies.

Things between us have been great for close to year now. No episodes, no court,
It was a lazy Saturday and I had fell asleep at 6pm watching TV. I woke up and saw more then 10 missed calls from her mother, stepfather and herself, not explaining what had happened but just to call them back over something important. So when I called back at 10:30 at night, her stepfather answered and started to tell me the story of how my friend’s father (who is in his 80’s) threatened my daughter.

My daughter said that her neighbor (my best friends father) who they live a few houses up from, threatened to “shoot” her and the friend she was with when their dog a (Pit Bull) got loose and ran into their yard and was barking at my friends father. He was working on trimming the bushes in the yard and apparently had grabbed a stick shooing the dog away. I have known these people for over 30 years and know there one the kindest well-mannered families I know. When I first heard the story coming from her stepfather (the same guy that took my good hospitality back stabbed, and cheated me). I thought this has to be another one of the mother’s evil plans again. Then her mother got on the phone with a despicable tone in her voice and said “where were you while your daughters life was being threatened”! and onto say the “step-father is more of a father then you are”! And on and on it went digging into my soul saying hurtful things. Now how did I become the bad guy? Now it just gets worse. My daughter is not speaking to me. The mother has asked me not to contact her with exception of the home phone (which I think they have setup so they record and listen in). I wrote my daughter on FB which I haven’t received a reply. My friend wasn’t there at the time but he said his father never said anything like he would shoot anyone much less two 12 year old girls.

The more and more I go out into town, which I hardly do anymore, I hear the mother’s horrible lies, each one more or less sinister I don’t know. Like how the mother had told someone in my daughters school that she was raped and I’m not the father. Or the $25,000 dollars I invested in giving them a better life by starting a business of their choice to run themselves and eventually take over. To hear through the grapevine the mother lied to her landlord (a mutual friend) about how I ruined their business.

My girl is 12 now and we’ve had a great relationship of respect and honesty but she’s becoming a teenager and wants to spend more time with her friends, which I am happy to do but I think I gave in too much. I always give in to make things calmer and easier, but in the long run makes things worse.

Lately I’ve become very depressed and like you said just want to run and hide from the mistakes I made. That worked great when I once had a lot of money, but don’t anymore. I haven’t had steady work in over a year and I consider myself lucky I have a few friends that throw me work from time to time. Gas here is now $4.15 a gallon and we do a lot of driving in my area. The list goes on and on. Basically I’ve lost all my motivation to finish anything I start. I sleep three times a day sometimes. It’s a struggle to even eat. Overall I find myself wishing for everything I need. I wish I had that feeling back like when I was a kid, a sense of purpose.

Thanks for reading this far if you have. I hope it helps your situation in some way. Honestly, I was hoping it helped my own by writing it down but I don’t feel any better. At this point I just wish Pleiadians would come take me off this ridiculous planet. Sorry.. cool planet, rotten leaders…