reply to post by SoulVoid
Your wife sounds a bit like a sociopath. You say postpartum depression, which of course can be very real..but to me it sounds like she is an extreme
attention w***e (and please don't take that in the bad way..I was trying to think of a nicer term but that is all I could come up with). This is
evidenced by how when you were finally making your break from her during your split, she started again with trying to reel you back in. Without maybe
even knowing it herself, she must have your attention on her in any way..be it positive or negative. The fact that she had an affair should be the
only answer you need. You will have to extricate yourself from her life but remain firmly rooted in your daughter's. Barring some crazy circumstance
like lightning strikes her and she suddenly becomes a different personality, she absolutely will not change. She knows you are crazy for her and will
do all you can to stay and she will use it against you. The saddest part is, there is a little girl involved that needs two parents, not just one. Two
loving parents, anyway. Do not let this woman drive you from your child. Stay a part of her life, but distanced from the mother. She needs to know you
are doing all you can.
Take this from a girl whose father left both of his kids to be raised by a single mom, and then has spent my entire adult life bemoaning his
decisions. I am now 34 years old and barely a phone call goes by from my dad as he goes on and on about woulda shoulda coulda. The fact is, he didn't
and that is not going to change for anything. So don't be that dad who backs away. Be your daughter's knight in shining armor. When you focus on
her, you will start to understand the problems of the mother will fade.
Hopefully she won't pull a psycho and make up stories about you to keep you away. Good luck!