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Originally posted by influencetheabove
Being a 16 year old myself, i can pretty much agree to this whole topic. I honestly dont know when the last time my parents hugged me and told me they love me. I'm not depressed or have ever been acting out, you kind of get used to not having your parents do those things. But when they do hug or tell me they love me every once in a long while, its actually kind of awkward because its been so long.
On another note, i also do agree on this and the next generation of kids being more rude and disrespectful towards adults. Like i said being a teenager myself, i have first hand experience on this kind of thing. When i hear a punk kid thats my age or even younger disrespect an adult, it upsets me because i just hate their, shall we say "swagger/mindset". The problem is kids acting out to fit in or look cool in front of friends. All in all, you cant blame it on the kids.
Originally posted by ownbestenemy
My two boys do things that boys have done for ages -- picked their noses, threw rocks into the neighbor's yard, tried to light things on fire, experimented and pushed the language boundary, dared each other to ridiculous tasks, climbed over fences they were not supposed to, stole, punched and said mean things.
Originally posted by Komaratzi11
reply to post by doomedtoday
Please, don't ever put the urge to make more money as more important than your family. I don't think most young parents really intend to do this, but in the process of trying to give your family the best, it happens. My best advice to young people is to remember that the best you can give your family is YOU. Your kids may remember the great toy or gadget you gave them, but they will NEVER forget the day Mom sang one of the kid's favorite songs on karaoke or Dad jumping on the sled randomly.
Seriously, these are the things that matter. Time well spent. It took me 42 years and the death of my dad to learn what really matters. I work part-time even though we could use more income, just so I can be available to my kids. So far, it's paying off. I have great kids who stay out of trouble and come to me when they need help.
Originally posted by doomedtoday
Originally posted by influencetheabove
Being a 16 year old myself, i can pretty much agree to this whole topic. I honestly dont know when the last time my parents hugged me and told me they love me. I'm not depressed or have ever been acting out, you kind of get used to not having your parents do those things. But when they do hug or tell me they love me every once in a long while, its actually kind of awkward because its been so long.
On another note, i also do agree on this and the next generation of kids being more rude and disrespectful towards adults. Like i said being a teenager myself, i have first hand experience on this kind of thing. When i hear a punk kid thats my age or even younger disrespect an adult, it upsets me because i just hate their, shall we say "swagger/mindset". The problem is kids acting out to fit in or look cool in front of friends. All in all, you cant blame it on the kids.
You have earned my respect. I assume you would count as a part of the same generation as me and I know how annoying it is when the majority of the people in my age group seem to be completely void of respect for others in general. Its always me me me my my my and that is just so annoying.
Originally posted by SLAYER69
Originally posted by ownbestenemy
My two boys do things that boys have done for ages -- picked their noses, threw rocks into the neighbor's yard, tried to light things on fire, experimented and pushed the language boundary, dared each other to ridiculous tasks, climbed over fences they were not supposed to, stole, punched and said mean things.
He he
Boys will be boys. My son learned two valuable lessens while growing up. Restraint and defending oneself. We put both our Daughter and Son in Karate for several years. One summer after two or three years of classes a new neighborhood kid thought he would bully my son and some of his friends. After a few run ins one day my son came to me and expressed how that kid made him feel and what he wanted to do to him. I told him if he gets out of hand that he had the right to defend himself.
When a follow along situation arose my son went a little too far and laid the kid out instead of just defending himself. I explained the concept of restraint. That evening I took him by the shoulder and made him apologize to the other kid and his parents. [ I Knew full by my sons actions the "Bullying" was over ]
The second time was a bit different and a few years later in High school. There was this Kid who kept at my son for some odd reason. My son brought it to my attention. I told him to tell one of his teachers. He did, it kept up. He came to me again, this time I told him to tell one of the counselors. He did, It kept up. Finally, I told him that he had the right to defend himself.
He did, magnificently
They tried to expel my son but I came down on them and explained that he had brought the continuing and ongoing situation to not just a teacher but also a counselor's attention which they ignored.
Nothing further was said after that.edit on 24-5-2012 by SLAYER69 because: (no reason given)