Originally posted by WWu777
Does one have the right to be selfish? Why does society act as though one were obligated to be unselfish?
Where do "rights" come from? Society.
Where do "obligations" come from? Society.
You don't have any rights and you don't have any obligations other than the ones you impede yourself with because you don't want society to shun
I don't know where you are from, but where I live (US), selfishness is lauded. In fact, this is the whole reason we are having an economic crisis: too
many selfish people wanted more than they could afford, big financial institutions played into it to get more money, then everyone crashed and burned.
That, compounded with the "entitlement" crowd who went to expensive universities, got degrees that are completely worthless in the real world, and who
have no actual marketable skills for a good job yet expect to get paid top wage because of their "elite" degrees... Well, you can see where
selfishness on a sweeping scale is not a good thing.
People are still just as selfish as ever, even at the bottom of the heap.
It is unfortunate, but not surprising.
It's not possible to force someone to care about others if he doesn't right? Isn't this an unrealistic expectation?
Who is forcing anything? Do you have a gun to your head as someone demands that you go work at a soup kitchen?
I'm really at a loss where you are getting this set of "expectations". You either do things for others because you want to, or you don't.
Besides, isn't it wrong to force someone to compromise or sacrifice his interests, life, freedom, resources, needs, etc. for the benefit of others?
What if he doesn't want to? Why should he force himself to do something he doesn't want to do? Especially if these "others" don't include his friends
I don't think it is right to force people to do things they do not want to do.
Isn't is self-destructive to be too selfless and only care about others but not about yourself? If so, why doesn't society consider that a bad thing
Yes, it is self-destructive to be too selfless. This is why a balance between selflessness and selfishness is necessary for optimum survival.
Key point: If everyone wants you to do something that you don't, should you give in, or should you listen to yourself and be selfish? Is one obligated
to do something one doesn't want to do, just because everyone else says so?
No. But, I say this as someone who has never been a follower and who walks away rather than give in to peer pressure. This is a product of being born
into a very suppressive family where all my of wants/needs were quashed before they were ever voiced. When I learned to stand up for myself, I found
that I definitely don't like people telling me what to do. I prefer to think about and weigh my options before taking action. The more pressure I
feel from others, the less likely I am to do what they think I should do.
You are not obligated to do anything. If you are feeling pressure to do things you do not want to do, then you are spending time with the wrong group
of people. Nobody who loves or cares about you will try to force or goad you into doing things you aren't comfortable doing.
There are times when selfishness is important, just as there are times when selflessness is important. You need to use the mind you have and make
these decisions for yourself. Sure, you can use other people's opinions in your reasoning, but that decision needs to ultimately be your
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