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Originally posted by Brad-H
So at the end of the day, those that get hammered for being selfish are being dictated to by hypocrites. Its a self-image thing I suppose.
We hold these truths to be self–evident,
That all men are created equal,
That they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights,
That among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.
Originally posted by violet
I think on your last point that no, you never have to do anything you don't feel right doing. It isn't being selfish at all.
Depends on the situation though, who's involved. Is it family asking you to be part of a family event and you say no because Stanley cup playoffs are on tv, that would be selfish.
Originally posted by darkbake
reply to post by WWu777
I have a solution for your girlfriend's son. If he is autistic, she might want to find a sitter that is at least somewhat compatible with him, be reassuring with him the first few times, and keep the same sitter, that way he can get used to him or her and become more comfortable with the situation over time.
There might also be reasons that he doesn't like visiting his grandmother, including loud noises, unpredictable behavior, or something of the like.
Overall, a solution needs to be found for this problem, because letting him be in control of her like this is actually an unhealthy decision for his future, her life, and their relationship. There are probably creative solutions to this and other problems that crop up that she can utilize if she thinks about it a bit.
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Originally posted by woodwardjnr
As long as your actions do not cause harm or distress to other's, then I believe one has the right to be selfish.
Does one have the right to be selfish?
Originally posted by WWu777
Does one have the right to be selfish? Why does society act as though one were obligated to be unselfish?
It's not possible to force someone to care about others if he doesn't right? Isn't this an unrealistic expectation?
Besides, isn't it wrong to force someone to compromise or sacrifice his interests, life, freedom, resources, needs, etc. for the benefit of others? What if he doesn't want to? Why should he force himself to do something he doesn't want to do? Especially if these "others" don't include his friends or family.
Isn't is self-destructive to be too selfless and only care about others but not about yourself? If so, why doesn't society consider that a bad thing too?
Key point: If everyone wants you to do something that you don't, should you give in, or should you listen to yourself and be selfish? Is one obligated to do something one doesn't want to do, just because everyone else says so?
Rand's characterization of selfishness as a virtue, including in the title of the book, is one of its most controversial elements. Philosopher Chandran Kukathas said Rand's position on this point "brought notoriety, but kept her out of the intellectual mainstream." Rand acknowledged in the book's introduction that the term 'selfishness' was not typically used to describe virtuous behavior, but insisted that her usage was consistent with a more precise meaning of the term as simply "concern with one's own interests." The equation of selfishness with evil, Rand said, had caused "the arrested moral development of mankind" and needed to be rejected.