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Originally posted by nimbinned
reply to post by mcsandy
I think there is perhaps too much romanticism around this notion of having a soul-mate or twin flame as they say. I do believe that they exist, but we are not always destined to meet them during each incarnation.
I love my wife but she is not my soul-mate. I chose her because I knew both consciously and sub-consciously that she could help me grow spiritually during this life. She has also given me a daughter that I love very dearly - I had a visual premonition of her growing in the womb of my partner long before we even got together as a couple.
My theory is that soul-mates are other spirit beings that we have had loving and nurturing relationships with before during other incarantions - not necessarily hear on Earth, or even in a 3rd dimensional reality for that matter.
It is also worth considering if a soul-mate needs to be an intimate partner. Can't a parent or a child, or a friend be a mate that you can enjoy a profound connection with on all levels of consciousness as well as in spirit ? This might sound a bit silly, but I just thought of the two guys that are Daft Punk - when you see them working side by side spinning their digital electro magic, it's like they are one entity. What about those brilliant ice skaters Torvill and Dean ? They weren't even married but had an amazing union when they danced together.
Originally posted by oso15
reply to post by mcsandy
I have found mine.
I can only hope that in my next life we are together..I know that if there's a way, I will look for him.
Not all of our soulmates are people we are meant to spend our entire lives with. Some are just meant to teach us about ourselves (while we do the same for them) then move on. I had a girlfriend for 4 years like this. She had told me that she felt like we met in past lives. In this one she was meant to show me what I'm not (self-serving), while also showing me that I was seeking out women who dragged me down. I had to find the strength to accept she wasn't the one for me. It was a lesson that life needed to teach me, and I am thankful for it because it shaped who I am now.
There are friends that I have who are soulmates, lifelong friends who will always be around despite the distance. I even saw a supernova with the naked eye with one of them in 1998. That event feels like it must be significant.
My parents I feel were chosen for me as well. They are both perpetual children who will never be mature enough to be mature role-models. This has forced me to find what it means to be a mature adult for myself. I think I've probably reached a much higher level of enlightenment without having a crutch (good parents) to fall back on. The people we have in our lives are all meant to teach us something about ourselves. Sometimes the lessons they teach are unpleasant, but ultimately it happens for a reason.
I have not met my romantic soulmate yet. I've had to work through the co-dependency of my last relationship and see who I am myself. We mustn't depend on someone else as our source of happiness. It's nice to have someone to reassure us when we're insecure or doubt ourselves, but we can't be conditioned to depend on that. After coming to that conclusion, I've wondered about the true role of a romantic soulmate. It's not a crutch, but perhaps someone who gives us a different perspective on ourselves and the world. Someone who adds meaning to our lives. But ultimately is this someone you "need" for fulfillment? I really have to wonder about that sometimes because it's always possible that you made a "wrong" choice at some point and had to spend your life without that person. I'm just putting thoughts into words here, obviously I still haven't answered all these questions for myself. If anybody has anything to add about the true role of a romantic soulmate, I'd be interested in reading your thoughts (in typed form of course, not psychically ).