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NJ school exam's "secret" question angers parents
Some New Jersey parents are upset about a standardized test question that asked third-graders to reveal a secret and write about why it was hard to keep.
The question appeared on the writing portion of some versions of the New Jersey Assessment of Skills and Knowledge given to third-graders this week.
Parents were especially outraged because children may have revealed information that should have stayed private.
"I guarantee you some children will be writing things family members and parents would have rather not revealed to the state," Goldberg said to the Asbury Park Press. He added that if his twin 9-year-old boys, who told him about the question on the test, would have answered "it's none of your darn business" he would have been perfectly fine with their response.
Originally posted by FortAnthem
reply to post by Wrabbit2000
I don't want to turn my kids into tinfoil hat wearing nut-jobs like me either but, it seems the time has come when we will have to sit them down and talk to them about what it appropriate to tell their teachers about their home lives.
A teacher's job is to teach the kids, not to serve as an investigator digging for dirt against the parents. They certainly shouldn't be digging for dirt unless they have evidence that something is going on.
You can bet I'm going to teach my kids to say "None of your Goddamn business!" when their teachers ask them about things outside of school.
Originally posted by Wrabbit2000
reply to post by PurpleChiten
You make a good point and remind me once more why absolutes aren't a great idea. It doesn't change my personal situation because it's only us and our Son. One size fits all isn't needed here... However.......
I hadn't given much thought to what you say and now that I do, well, you may have as good as suggestion as I offered for how to handle it, depending on the kid.
Privacy = Doctor or School inquiring about Mommy or Daddy owning guns at home (which is happening, as many know)
Secret = Daddy is molesting me when no one is home
In that... Yeah, I'd hate to think someone would unknowingly teach their kids a blanket 'Don't trust the cops and don't trust schools' ....then something like that develops and they don't feel they can bring it to the parent who taught them to trust no one, either. Hmmm... Here I thought I finally found a thread I could toss an opinion on with clarity and no buts... (snaps fingers) It's ATS. I should have known better.
Originally posted by FortAnthem
reply to post by PurpleChiten
The "if you aren't doing anything illegal, you have nothing to worry about" argument is pure BS.
There are some things people do that they want to keep secret to avoid embarrassment or even perfectly legal things people do that the school could twist and use against the parents.
What if the secret is that the family is on food stamps or they may lose their home because daddy lost his job? I'm sure most parents wouldn't want that type of info getting out. What if the secret is that their family owns several guns? Its perfectly legal for people to own guns and keep them in the house but, the school could use this as an excuse to say the child is living in a dangerous environment.
Any time the school or one of our doctors asks us if we have guns in the house, we lie to them every time. It is none of their business what kind of weapons I have in my home and you never know what is their agenda when asking such questions.
There are plenty of other perfectly legal but, embarrassing secrets families may want to keep that could be used against them to take away the children. Just think if a child revealed that there was a history of mental illness in the family or that "mommy sees a head shrink". The schools could use any number of things against the parents and have no business digging for dirt if they have no evidence of wrongdoing.
Originally posted by FortAnthem
reply to post by PurpleChiten
The "if you aren't doing anything illegal, you have nothing to worry about" argument is pure BS.
There are some things people do that they want to keep secret to avoid embarrassment or even perfectly legal things people do that the school could twist and use against the parents.
What if the secret is that the family is on food stamps or they may lose their home because daddy lost his job? I'm sure most parents wouldn't want that type of info getting out. What if the secret is that their family owns several guns? Its perfectly legal for people to own guns and keep them in the house but, the school could use this as an excuse to say the child is living in a dangerous environment.
Any time the school or one of our doctors asks us if we have guns in the house, we lie to them every time. It is none of their business what kind of weapons I have in my home and you never know what is their agenda when asking such questions.
There are plenty of other perfectly legal but, embarrassing secrets families may want to keep that could be used against them to take away the children. Just think if a child revealed that there was a history of mental illness in the family or that "mommy sees a head shrink". The schools could use any number of things against the parents and have no business digging for dirt if they have no evidence of wrongdoing.