Originally posted by scotsdavy1
I wrote back and said if you really mean it and can call me dad starting from that day then i would be happiest guy on the planer.
If not, then i dont want her to come here ata ll. she replied so be it she cant come then.
Last night she didnt see what the fuss was all about but i said why celebrate fathers day when im not you father in your eyes but the dead foster guy
is and not me.
Woah.. 'Dad' is a word. Thats all. If she wanted to call you Princess Consuela Banana Hammock it shouldnt matter as long as you have a good
relationship.
In your previous posts it sounded like you had slotted into a perfect father/daughter relationship. Much like how people in relationships go through a
honeymoon period of thinking everything perfect, when the reality is much different.
You
cannot refer to the only other father figure in her life as 'the dead foster guy'. Thats awful. I realise you feel that as the biological
father, you should be recognised as the only one, but sharing a few genes does not compare to years of someone else taking over the role as the dad.
You should be grateful to him for bringing your kids up well.
i cut her iphone off that i bought her and sim card and told her to forget i existed
Why did you buy her an iphone? I know presents seem like something a father should do, but are you sure you're not on some level trying to compensate
for the lost years, even if you weren't squarely to blame for the lack of contact?
As others have said, you pushed too much, too soon. Aside from all that Ive mentioned above, you also cant expect to be the perfect father yourself
when in reality you have had very little time of experiencing what it is really like.
I think the best you can hope for now is trying to arrange some family counselling with her if thats at all possible. Situations as complex as this
can really benefit from people who are trained to deal with these types of relationships.
