reply to post by NightSkyeB4Dawn
The more support and advice you send, the more excuses she has for staying, and now it seems that she is admitting that she is never going to leave so
what is the purpose of her post?
I spent the better part of 7 years justifying any way I could, staying in the relationship I am in now. I convinced myself that I could get over the
rough spots, I could ignore the past indiscretions, I even convinced myself that I could live in a sexless marriage. I spent 7 years ignoring my own
feelings and needs, trying to be what my partner needed.
sometimes, it's just easier to stay.
Hell, my situation right now, I'm still married, still living with her, she knows most of the story about me and this other woman, has a complete
strangle hold on my life. I have few friends left, sure, I'm in contact with a few on facebook, but most won't even hang out anymore because of the
person she turned me into. I haven't had a bank account in 10 years, because she didn't trust me (had no reason then to not trust me for the
record). I make good money, over 20$ an hour... I live on 20$ a week. 20$ a week is what I get because my paycheque goes into her account.
Sure, we have bills, but both of us work, and she makes more money than me. She has an RRSP (retirement saving plan) with almost 10 grand in it, over
half of which is my money. Do I have access to it? Nope. Will she even change the account to a joint account? Nope.
And low and behold, I meet a wonderful woman who makes me feel good about myself for once, it's nice not being beaten down constantly verbally. We
are deeply in love, she has cancer, and I'm still here, with my wife.
Because it's too hard to leave sometimes, especially when there is actual love involved, even if it's not romantic anymore.
But once you reach a breaking point, you have to make a change.