Originally posted by nixie_nox
reply to post by Taupin Desciple
A lazy male is the biggest turnoff in the world.
And it never ceases to amaze me how guys just don't understand this point.
someone even gave me a book called porn for women it is is pictures of hunky guys doing housework, lol.
I look at it this way. I'll give a typical conversation among strangers in this day and age.
Boy: How are ya?
Girl: What's it to you?
Boy: How are ya?
Girl: What's it to you?
Girl: WTF??? Oh... NOW you're too good for me?
As many find, girls are... Sorry ladies... total bitches today.
Once upon a time, guys were the ones expected to cheat. Today... I'm seeing, finding alot of that happening the other way round. Lots of wives are
leaving husbands ... thanks ecconomy... Trying to find greener grass from the first day of their new relationships.
I watch this in my step daughters, their mom, (my X) and much of the people they hang around with.
I remember saying this years ago to my X when argued over the company she started keeping..
Birds of a feather.... Year later... Guess I was right... Her new friends were all freshly out of their marriage, cheating on hubbies and doing
it in front of people that may go back and say something.
My X wanted me to meet her friends hubby at the time. So.. I pick my X up from work, we follow her friend to another guys house.. watch this girl all
over this guy.. then we go to her house so I can meet her hubs.. At this point.. The last thing I wanted to do was look at this guy cause I felt so
small just because I was there... and I knew.
To my X.. I mentioned how messed up this was. She got mad at me because I judged her friend. months later.. Guess what the X does...
Watching guys cheat on women pisses me off to no end.
Watching girls do the same... because guys do it.. makes me just as mad.
It's really hard to look at people today and say "Ya know, that person seems cool", because so many people are doing so much pathetic BS these days
to each other.
Relationships and Marriages are without substance these days and people are quick to rid themselves at the first sign of trouble. Marriages are more
akin to dating these days. The word itself lacks definition anymore.
People are lucky if they can hold on to a marriage for more than a few years now. Now, it's an obligation and a lockdown. So marriages are now
dating, and dating is more less NSA now (just sex). I seldom see happy couples together anymore. I seldom see PDA anymore. Most people I talk to
now are all "in Divorce" because...
the number 1 answer... They were too overprotective... Too nosey... Never let me do anything...
and the number 1 responce for said answer...
They were too secrative, they never wanted to do anything with me, always without me. I always felt like less of their friend. Their friends had
more say and could joke and kid, but when i did so, I was looked at as though I was way out of line.
Personaly, I think too many people are taking too much for granted. No one knows what being together is realy about. FWBs are more likely to have an
easy going life than "happy" couples.
I dunno... Everyone's messed up.. Ladies are acting as slutty as men. I guess that only leaves men to be lil bitches to play the roll of a woman
now? Hell I dunno, but attitudes of women today make it hard for a guy to walk up and be friendly. They've taken on the rolls of 13 year olds in
attitude while guys quickly loose their much needed testosterone lol
But yeah, I know... it goes both ways..
Women, if you want a nice guy... Talk to one when he speaks to you.. Truth is... Women, like men, revert back to what they claim they dont want simply
because they cant handle a truely nice guy.
It goes both ways... Guys are supposed to do this... girls are supposed to do this.... Yeah? Well, it dont happen that way anymore. Those days are
gone. Too much trouble on both sides have everyone desensatized. We dont know HOW we're supposed to act anymore.
To be honest OP.. I dont see any real way of answering your post because to me, in truth, relationships are built falsely. Usually boils down to
what the person has, is capable of, or will have.. Almost never on personality.
Gals like guys often look for what they cant compare to. No, not what they cant have... Big Diffrence.
Big women looking for hot men... Big guys looking for hot women... Sure, there are people who have specific taste, but weight and proportions are a
big deal with people. It goes both ways, but for me, I like a woman to be firm all over, not big, not skinny. I find some big women attractive as I
do some skinny women. Still rather a certain body type of neither of those.