posted on May, 3 2012 @ 09:28 PM
reply to post by britelite1971
I remember having those feelings when I was in my early 20's and I married 2 of them..bad boys..one was killed in a motorcycle accident and the 2nd
hubby and I were married for 20 years. Both were thrill seekers and I think both were similar with a narcissistic personality and devil may care
attitude about life. I have always been a care giver type and the responsible one.
Both men I discovered after many years in therapy were very much like my Dad..I believe its true we marry someone that's like either our father or
our mother in the case of men.
At 39 she at some point may want to examine why she is attracted to this personality type and ask herself "What am I getting out of this
Is this the treatment she's used to? is this filling a need to relive some aspect of her childhood? Was her father a player? I know mine was..but I
loved him and accepted that from him and for me that was normal to see men cheat, drink and smooze. You can't fix these men..they bring excitement
and drama, hurt and pain but...pleasure as well, thinking you are the woman who tames the tiger..however temporary that is.
Please remind your friend for me that at 39 her chances to find real happiness and a lasting relationship fade with each passing year, and ask her the
question I posed earlier "What am I getting out of this relationship?"
and be really honest with herself when she answer's it. If she can't answer it..then perhaps some therapy is in order because at the end of the day
this is risky behavior and she may be a victim of some type of detachment disorder..just my thoughts and experiences. Cheers Coco