Originally posted by greyer
Ottobot, please don't make me quote myself, I said I was not looking for love from a girl or woman. I mentioned feeling good when a girl smiled at
me, that is just because I am heterosexual.
Ok, I'll quote you for you. Here's a rundown of what my response was in reference to:
Or when in public I can picture attractive girls naked, lol it won't get me anywhere but a lustful thought.
Only attractive girls, not those girls who don't meet your "definitely want to envision naked" standards. Ok.
People look at you when walking down the street, you will be some form of entertainment to them whether a bum, or an attractive girl, or anybody -
And what of an unattractive girl? People are people, but you take the time to reference attractive girls again.
In the midst of practicing this I saw a beautiful girl and she smiled at me when pulled up in her car. At this point most guys would be elated, girls
are a probably more calm because they know guys are more 'physically' attracted to them when they are more attracted to a guys personality.
So, if girls are more attracted to personality, do you just have an outstanding personality? She's smiling at you because she knows she's so
beautiful that you can't keep your eyes off her?
I didn't end up meeting the love of my life I have always been waiting for but I have come to realize that this goal is not going to be accomplished
over night, I must practice, practice, practice.
So, you are
"looking" for the love of your life.
I am a guy who has always been told I was attractive, but have never met a girl who I was attracted to and who was interested in me. So I have pretty
much given up into gaining any love from any girl, we don't get along great because I was the one who yearned for love year after year when none of
them were interested in me.
You've never met a girl who meets your attractiveness standard - that "I'm an attractive male and thus need a socially/stereotypically attractive
female on my arm to be seen as a stud" standard? - and who has been attracted to you. Clearly, the "unattractive" females who've wanted your
attentions were just too ugly all around to even be considered. Personality < "Attractive".
To clarify my goal - it is to walk down any street and be able to converse with Anybody and make real connections at the time of meeting them. Girls
just add spice to the mix because since I am attracted to them it is nearly impossible to act the exact same as to somebody I am not attracted to, but
maybe if I did I would finally have a girl interested in me.
To summarize, you've given up finding someone who is "attractive" and who is attracted to you, so you will be indifferent and hope that maybe that
indifference allows you to interact with an "attractive" girl who will then like your personality and be attracted to you?
So, again, if your mate must be "attractive", but you attempt indifference... what happens when an "unattractive" girl falls in love with your
The reason why I think most girls were not interested is because of my self image - I live in an area where tatoos and punk rock are very popular,
since I don't have that style I have seen many girls choose the guy with tatoos over me - it was not because of my looks or personality but my self
Choose them over you? How's that? Are you saying you've been "friend-zoned" a bunch of times? If so, did you make your intent known to the girls
who choose TatMan instead of you?
You say they choose the other
guys because of their looks and the image they put out... but the girls don't care about the looks and image you
Which is it?
So I agree with what I am learning here, I just think girls are so absorbed in self image that I will never find true love, not at least where I live
You're right about that... but the same stereotypical girls are everywhere. Problem is, you keep looking for them to be your "true love".
In this case no, I saw a beautiful girl smile at me and there was no time to think anything but feel a rush. There is no way I can see a beautiful
girl smile at me and not feel, witness, and acknowledge in my heart that she is beautiful. I can lie and make it seem like a think she is ugly - and
yes those are the guys who get beautiful girls. It is well known fine looking girls like 'bad boys,' and it is probably just the lack of self image
they have, I can agree with that.
"Bad Boy" is
the self image. Girl thinks she's "girl who likes bad boys", so looks for them.
I get it, you don't want to set yourself up for disaster.
But, really, when you notice one girl over another and give one girl more attention then another, you are
doing it for that reason, to some
This was my point.
Quote away, Greyer.