I know myself very well. I self examine my behavior and my actions and why I have them, and whether or not they are correct. If they are not correct,
I try to change myself and the way I either act or react. I am not perfect and am still young, although by the time I am older I hope to be a quality
person with all my behaviors.
When I step into a thread sometimes it is only to learn and may or may not make a comment or two.
Other threads I may attempt to offer whatever advice I have to offer or in some way contribute to the good of the topic.
Other threads I step into either knowing or believing I know what position I will take, determining to argue that position.
While yet other threads are simply shocking and I may make a comment out of shock; and may or may not further contribute after the shock wears off.
The third kind of mindset, the one of knowing my position at times I have been wrong. If and/or when I am proved wrong I will move on because the
other side had a stronger argument which it made me rethink my position. But other times the debate only circles into infinity and it is not worth my
time so I leave the debate for the good of my peace.
Yet other times they was so much hatred directed at me I did not even bother to read the entire posting of the person I was debating. Only to find
myself posting in a reactionary manner in response to the first couple of sentences and then only out of anger. When I am in a debate or discussion
with anyone who is hateful and rude I completely shut down. I do not listen to anything said from that point forward. It wouldn't matter if in that
thread they had proven the sky was falling, I would not have listened to any of their points.
The only time I am willing to listen to others is when they speak to me in a good manner. This is when I am willing to admit my faults and the only
time I am willing to find the middle ground.
If I am like that, do you not suppose most people are? Most people wont listen to a word you say if you are not willing to speak to them in a calm and
peaceful manner, therefore if you want to prove yourself the only way to go about it is to have good manners, and prove your point through facts. Not
everyone will listen even when you do this, although some will, eventually maybe many will.
But never will anyone listen if you have the mentality that you have to beat your way of thinking into someone's head.
Therefore, there is never any reason to be rude unless of course you are wrong, then you would have to be terribly forceful because your view is
wrong, and then you only scared people into agreeing with you, and never made them actually believe your view was correct.
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