Though I concur with the psychic vampirisation descriptions, as a description of the experience of the phenomenon, my thinking on the actual
explanations of the experience differ.
I think that a lot goes on in subconscious communications, in subtle body language and such.
A drastic loss of energy in a (seemingly banal) exchange can have a few different causes-
one can be cognitive dissonance, as someone else mentioned- you are doing something you don't want to in talking to them at all, and it causing a sort
of tug of war inside you. That causes fatigue.
-But also there is ways that others "vampirize" emotions from others around them. I do not mean in any magical sense- I mean people who are very
emotional and expressive about them (often very sensitive empathics) end up causing others to "project" or exteriorize their own emotions onto them.
For example, this is what is at work at a funeral where there is someone who is loudly and dramatically weeping- the other suddenly become less
emotional and expressive (this is why weepers were hired in ancient Rome!). It is as if just watching someone else express their emotion causes
Emotions are Energy- in-Motion in your body... the hormones give you energy... if your body stops producing them, you run lower on energy.
-There is also the very subtle instinctive power plays that are always happening between people without them being aware of it. I work with training
animals and have foudn that the same body language they use, humans use too, to determine and establish hierarchy. Like when you move closer to
someone, causing them to step back or sideways, you have just established your role as dominant.
Our body gets more energetic (produces hormones) as it picks up power... because power is also responsibility and we are wired to prepare for
fulfilling difficult and challenging responsibility when we are empowered.
The submissive role is one of being protected and having less responsibility, so the body adjust it's hormone level accordingly also.
If the person in question has a tendancy to do either of these things (note that they often go together in relationships- one will exert domination,
the other will be the "emotional" one pull back energy that way) then that could then lead to the cognitive dissonance as well!!!! If you don't like
the way you feel in their presence.
edit on 28-4-2012 by Bluesma because: (no reason given)