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I would need to know more about the history between you guys to really give an educated opinion...
Originally posted by MountainLaurel
reply to post by AthlonSavage
Well, Facebook could indeed, and has been the topic of some very interesting discussions, and a perfect example of where "good" and "evil" can merge.
I think you are being rather hard on yourself......and living in two different countries is not an easy obstacle to overcome...even in the name of Love......lol.....I am only 250 miles from the man I love, and heck we were together for years, lived together...but life is complicated....family, jobs, money, responsibilities....as I say it's complicated......we hurt each other.....but we loved each other too....
It really is uncanny the conversation we are having.....and I appreciate the Mods and OP allowing us to work through what ever "force" is at work here. You remind me so much of the guy I keep talking about, I would love to say his name, but he doesn't like when I do that....he is very smart, masculine, fixes electrical stuff, cars, plumbing...he is also a musician, great guitar player, decent singer, and he once sent me a song he wrote on FB too....I listen to it all the time still.... Like yourself he is good with the ladies, but somewhat closed down when it comes to sharing HIS feelings.....kinda hot and cold I guess you could say?
We also met on-line 11 years ago......very wierd story actually.....and it took another year after that till we actually started dating......we also had a distance issue, but nothing like yours.....when I think back on everything we could or should have done differently, the biggest thing I can come up with is is to communicate what, and I mean REALLY what is important to you both in life.
Him and I had attraction / chemistry, common interests, we had fun, could hang on each other's every word...but we never talked about anything "practical" in enough depth to merge our lives the way we did....we made decisions from the "heart" and emotions...lol...anyways enough of my rambling.....my advice based on what you have told me so far is to engage her as man who is interested in her dreams and values, become best friends.
How do you guys see any and all senarios that might come your way as a couple? Passion and desire are VERY important in a healthy relationship don't get me wrong...and clearly there seems there were "sparks" between the two of you.......and trust me when I tell you this.....if this woman has feelings for you, she will welcome you taking an interest in her life and feelings......send her a great movie to watch, and then discuss it, tell her a joke, send a funny story or picture....all that silly stuff that "melts" us girls......and if that leads to being "lovers and soul mates....WOW......
Anyways.....have a great afternoon.....I am getting pretty chocked up writing all this stuff actually.......I hope it helped you in some way...it helped me ....Thank-You.....