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I've had many a people upset at me in my life, but I never felt like I was bullied, and I always resolved it with communication. It just doesn't make sense to me how it can escalate to something unmanageable.
Originally posted by boncho
reply to post by strangedays
If you hadn't noticed, I never made any physical threats of violence towards you. (Yet, you just did to me?) But your reaction in this thread reaffirms my position that perhaps your experiences of being "bullied" is not solely the fault of others.
Destrung would be synonymous with, relaxing, taking a deep breath. I did not mean it any other way.
And this all goes back to my original stance on the issue, I think people are lacking in communication or unaware of their own actions, which leads to scenarios where they feel like they are being bullied or singled out.
I've had many a people upset at me in my life, but I never felt like I was bullied, and I always resolved it with communication. It just doesn't make sense to me how it can escalate to something unmanageable.edit on 26-4-2012 by boncho because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by GoalPoster
reply to post by strangedays
Again . . . if the employer were doing their job, this would stop.
As an aside, many employers don't realize that if a worker feels threatened or uncomfortable, they're a lot less productive than one who is at ease in their place of employment. Employers who fail to act are actually working against their own productivity agenda.
In my experience, many managers are either unaware of their responsibility in this regard or don't have a set big and hairy enough to properly deal with these types of situations.
Again, it points back to the employer . . . failure to train an failure to adequately hire competent personnel.
In Ontario, the Occupational Health and Safety Act, two things would apply . . . the employer is required by law to have 'competent' supervisors, with a mandated competencies to include being knowledge and application of the Occupational Health and Safety Act and able to identify and eliminate workplace hazards.
Further, the employer is legally responsible for taking all precautions reasonable in the circumstance to protect the health and safety of all workers.
Clearly, having a nutless, lazy and untrained person in a position of authority points back to a failure of due diligence and places the employer in a position of grave liability for failure to provide a healthy and safe workplace.
edit on 26-4-2012 by GoalPoster because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by Libertygal
I think the thing that shocked me the most was how so many people saw what was happening, but stood by and simply watched, but failed to step in. I can understand they didn't wish it to escalate, but I think more to the point they were actually afraid of becoming targets themselves.
And in the one posters situation, she was just told there was nothing they could do. Failure to address a reported problem (properly-asking about it then saying you can do nothing just wasted the money thats allocated for the examination of it) by the company.
I think the thing that shocked me the most was how so many people saw what was happening, but stood by and simply watched, but failed to step in.
I can understand they didn't wish it to escalate, but I think more to the point they were actually afraid of becoming targets themselves.
The new trainee sat there with her mouth hanging open, and when the attacker walked off, they turned to me as I was called back for the closed door meeting and said, "If you need to come with you, I will tell them what I just saw. I can't believe what I just saw happen!"
I feared if she went to the supervisor as a witness for me, this would only make them a target once I was out of the picture.
I knew I would not allow someone to defame and slander my good name and reputation in the workplace.
Originally posted by Xaphan
When I worked at McDonalds my boss shouted at me for about 5 minutes before firing me, just because I had an uncontrollable sneeze which projected my chewing tobacco all over the preparation counter. That's the problem with a boss being a workplace bully, there's really nothing you can do about it. You can do something about it when it's a coworker though.
If you were asked to train the person that means you were given a position of authority
Judging by how the situation unfolded, it seems you were not a key candidate for the training position. Or there needs to be a better structure in place where the trainer is communicating with whoever is in charge of the new employees.
In your case, if your supervisors/managers are not supporting you in the training duties, you should not be involved in them. Simple as that.
Who? Other workers? They are not in the position to make any calls on the matter, they are there to focus on their own tasks.
Since it seems like there was no discussion among you and your manager during the training period, it would have made sense to bring the person in and have them speak in the meeting. It had escalated to that point, it shouldn't have, but at least that would have given the people above you a better understanding of the situation.
Yet you claim the person in question is a bully and caused all these issues, and you would still have them at your workplace "terrorizing" other people....
How exactly were you defamed and slandered?
Sorry, there are a lot of holes in your story. It doesn't make sense