reply to post by UnaChispa
I don't remember when it started, but all of a sudden I started noticing so many good-looking women out there. I'm hoping this is just a short
phase. My wife and I are not having problems at all - happy home, good life, fantastic sex.
My question to other men who are married: Does it get easier to look the other way or does it get harder with time?
There's nothing wrong with noticing attractive women. It's acting on that impulse, or making your gal feel less desirable by calling attention to it,
that you have to guard against.
Humans aren't naturally monogamous. Socially, we are expected to be, but biologically, I don't believe it's in our nature. Still though, we have a
brain, and as such, we can overcome this natural drive easily enough.
It isn't a phase though. It's something you'll have to deal with. You think she isn't checking out other guys too? She is. They're simply craftier
about it, and wait until they are with their girlfriends to start gabbing about who's hot and who's not.
Now, here's a good tip. If your wife ever points out an attractive woman, here's what you do.
Your wife: "Wow honey, she sure is a looker, huh?"
(Your alarms should be sounding, as this is a TRAP!)
You: "I hadn't noticed..."
(WRONG...she isn't going to buy this...instead
You: "Yeah, she's pretty hot, but she's got a pretty big nose don't you think?"
(whammo! you dodged it!)
You can agree with her assessment, but you must then also IMMEDIATELY (no pause) find something about her that you can legitimately criticize. This
will cement to her that she's the perfect one for you, and others have flaws.
edit on 30-4-2012 by Gazrok because: (no reason given)