Originally posted by Asktheanimals
reply to post by sugarcookie1
Going through a nasty divorce with kids taught me a great deal. I realized I could sink to a level where my ex and I hated each other openly and that
would be bad for my kids. The only sensible thing was to let those emotions go and never speak badly to either of my sons about their mother (they
still needed to get along with her). No point in putting children in the middle of an adult disagreement either.
Becoming sick and disabled was the other event that helped me to grow. There was no one to blame, it's just one of those things that "happens" to
you - and you must decide if you're going to quit and be mad at the world or if you are going to get all the happiness you can from what you have. I
could make a long list of things I used to love to do that can't do anymore but what use is there in that? I do the things I can and am content with
Life will pull you down if you let it - employers screwing your over, the government doing the same, neighbors driving you half mad - at a certain
point you realize that you have the power to control how you react to these things. This allows you the coolness of mind to envision the most
productive response that you can employ in your favor.
It is sometimes the only way to stay sane.
Does wonders for your blood pressure too.
I just went through a divorce myself but there was no kids involved ..I went through such a range of emotions from anger to conflict i had a hard time
keeping my emotions under control..
Then i decided this was doing nothing but causeing me stress ..I told him i apologize that things didn't work out and left it at that..I knew i had
to have clarity of mind when dealing with my ex ,,In your case with children i have alot of respect for you keeping the the kids out of it..
If you talk to the kids about all the bad stuff that the other parent is doing you give the children a lot of baggage to carry around. . . They are
already struggling enough. I think all you should tell your children is how much you love them.
Being sick and disabled or any disability for that matter,no one should lose hope..Any disability you have now or may develop in the future, only
you can determine whether or not you will let it handicap you..
We maybe limited in a number of ways, but there are many things you can do despite these limitations. Work with your uniqueness, your abilities and
talents, use them to the fullest..
Be determined and reach for your highest goals in life: spiritually, emotionally, and physically. Appreciate what you do have. Enjoy people and things
to the fullest...
Live one day at a time. It's all any of us really have. Do what you can to make the most of your situation, and then relax, and let it be thats how i
look at it and it seems to work..
"There are two ways of meeting difficulties: you alter the difficulties, or you alter yourself to meet them"
This was sent to me a few years back and i love what it says and its so true..
Some say I am disabled, but you know that isn't true
I simply have a challenge a little different from you.
My slight inconvenience has taught me things they could not know
Each obstacle is a victory, enabling me to grow.
I'm not really any different, I cry, I laugh, I snore
I don't want to be treated as if I'm not a person anymore.
Out of good intentions, people are afraid to let me try
But sometimes I have to fall, and sometimes I need to cry.
God gives me strength and dignity, and the courage to be all I can be
For He doesn't see me as disabled, He just sees me as me.