Originally posted by Asktheanimals
People taking responsibility for their own emotional states?
Great idea too.
I wish more people would take responsibility for everything in their lives.
The world would be a much better place but it would certainly disenfranchise a great many who make their living by convincing others things are always
someone else's fault.
I know some people who cannot let go of their anger and refuse to see that they could change how they feel if they bothered to assert control.
It's sad really because it's disempowering when others can make you "jump" at their whim.
i wrote this to another member on this thread and i stand behind it 100 % and your right its disempowering when others can make you "jump" at their
Anger is a natural response to feeling attacked, injured or violated. It's part of being human.. When something makes you angry, you feel excitement
in your body and emotions. Your glands are pumping your blood full of the hormone adrenalin, preparing for fight or flight. You are full of energy,
alert, ready for action for humans it's energy seeking expression.
I think a certain amount certain of anger is necessary to our survival..we can't physically lash out at every person or object that irritates or
annoys us; laws, I think its social norms, and common sense place limits on how far our anger can take us.
I think its best to find out what it is that triggers your anger, and then to develop strategies to keep those triggers from tipping you over the
Anger actually escalates anger and aggression and does nothing to help you (or the person you're angry with) resolve the situation.
Logic defeats anger, because anger, even when it's justified, can quickly become irrational. So use cold hard logic on yourself.
Angry people tend to demand things: fairness, appreciation, agreement, willingness to do things their way. Everyone wants these things, and we are all
hurt and disappointed when we don't get them, but angry people demand them, and when their demands aren't met, their disappointment becomes anger
ive seen this right here on ATS in many threads..
Keeping your cool can keep the situation from becoming a disastrous one.Life can be filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions
of others. You can't change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you.peace,sugarcookie1