This thread is about new age philosophies and its popular myths and clichés.
I think we could grab them, one by one, and talk about them, give our opinion and demystify (or confirm) some of the new age beliefs like:
- We are all one;
- Existence of higher self (good self) and lower self (bad self);
- wanting causes suffering;
- Ego as the bad guy;
- Service to self and service to others (law of one doctrine);
- Denying of the self as the way to happiness;
I ask you all philosophers out there, let’s talk about these beliefs, you know what I am talking about, each one of us has its own belief, and we
have the right to believe what we want, but let’s talk openly and freely.
I suggest you identify the topic in each post.
Example: if you want to talk about service to self and service to others (law of one) put that title before writing the post, like this:
Service to self and service to others (law of one)
Then write your ideas.
Maybe this is a mix salad but if you talk about new age common beliefs and myths you are on topic, no problem. This way, everyone has some topic of
interest to discuss and its going to be fun.
I will start by the belief that wanting causes suffering because that is one of my favorites.
Wanting and wishing causes suffering
This is a belief that comes from Buddhism.
If a person is unhappy that is because there are wishes that are not being satisfied, causing frustration and suffering.
He can’t get what he wants, and life becomes pointless, his goals are frustrated, he ends up depressed, like a goalless person, he doesn’t have
reasons to get up from bed, because he has no goals, no wishes, no wanting, the ones he had are blocked, so he has none to live for.
He is stuck in unfulfilled wishes, he suffers.
His game is blocked, he has no game to play, life is empty, nothing to conquer… and depression takes over.
What is the solution for this disease? Eliminate wishes and goals; they are the cause of suffering.
All things of this world are out of his control, he can’t really be in control of anything, all things have life of its own, they come and go when
they want, they are impermanent, maybe god is ruling this, but not he, he can’t control the things of this world, so it is better if he stops
wishing what he can’t control.
Since he can’t control the fulfillment of his wishes, the solution is to stop wishing, what is left?
He is left living with no goals, no wanting, he takes his hands of the wheel, life, god, or the universe will guide him, he will flow with life, he
enjoys what is given, he will not look for anything, he will enjoy what he finds in the way, he is wandering around with no destination, enjoying all
that he finds…
Like a boy who enjoys all that his father gives but don’t really have wishes of his own, he annihilates his will to create and change reality, he
lives the reality as he sees it, but he doesn’t want to act upon it, because he can’t really control it, he recognizes that he is powerless, he
accepts this reality.
My opinion on this:
There was one time that I tried this way of living. In the beginning it was a relief, but soon enough I was depressed, no goals, no passion, no
enthusiasm. No, this was not for me..
I now think this is a coward game. This person gives up. He will live like a no-will-zombie because he can’t really deal with the pain of growing.
Of course our wishes are not all satisfied, that is part of the game.
But that is not the important part. I realized that there are some things I can control. I can control what I do, what I say, how I feel. I am in
control of myself. So i have power over my actions.
If my success is measured by what I do, instead of by what I get, I am not powerless at all.
So I started setting long, middle and short term goals. The passion and enthusiasm came back but I was not afraid of the world out there that I cant
control. I know the results of my actions are not under my control, so I focus on my actions, not on the results.
If I give my best I am happy, I am successful, no matter what other people give me, no matter what the world give me, I measure my success by the
quality of my actions, i am beyond luck.
The goals are just an excuse to make me move, to make me be in action, what matters is the quality of my actions.
I am victorious if I evolve, if yesterday I was a lazy prick, and today I work hard and disciplined, iam happy because I evolved my actions, I am a
better person now.
I have goals all right, but they are just fuel for action, what makes me happy is evolving my actions, be a better person, do better every day.
This world has a lot to do: I have to survive, earn money to survive, treat others right, be with family and friends, have fun, take care of my
health, do things for the collective like politics or volunteering, I have a lot to do, but it doesn’t matter if it all ends up wrong in the end of
day, I don’t care about what I can’t control, I care about what I can control, my actions, my feelings, my words, if I do good, if I evolve, I am
If my day was filled with effort and dedication, then i am victorious.
So the secret is not in being happy because of events I can’t control, the secret is in being happy out of my effort, my work, my actions, my
dedication, my fun, my words, my feelings, my acts upon reality, not by reality in itself.
And I steel enjoy the moment, I focus on the moment, I get all wrapped up in the moment, when i am focused on the task at hand, I am happy, the more I
focus on my actions, the more happy I am, when you are fully focused you don't think on good or bad things, you are... happy.
So this is my recipe for the wishing and wanting problem. I started by eliminating wishes, but now I wish a lot, I wish to earn money to survive, I
wish to be with family and friends, I wish to have some fun, I wish to work on my house, etc etc.
But these wishes of the everyday life are only for passion and enthusiasm, they give me fuel for life, but my victory comes from my actions, my
success is the evolution of my being through better actions, better words, better feelings, I focus on what I can control, what I do is what I give to
the world, so I try to do better, give more, focus on better actions, benefit myself and others around me, I try to think of everyone’s interests,
including mine, this is a wonderful wish, the wish to benefit everyone.
So I say we should wish a lot, but focus on what we can control: our actions.
We should be happy for what we do, our success comes from a good performance, from our actions, these we can control, we are not powerless after all,
we have a lot of power, the power to create, to change reality, the simple act of painting a wall of our house is our creation, we changed reality, we
have all the power in the world, but the power is in our actions, it is in our hands, the power of our (good) actions makes us and the world
Sorry for the long text.